Which fictional character are you most like?
One of the most important lessons I would say to people comes from fiction.
The city I live in is very poor and deprived and has built up a bad reputation, when you tell people you come from here you can just see the expression on their faces...
... so a lot of young people move out, try to get rid of their accents and generally deny who they are to gain middle-class respectability. And they think it's the only way to succed in life, but I wouldn't call it success if you turn your back on who you are.
In "Paris", a glorious book by Edward Rutherfurd, in 1299 Jacob ben Jacob hears from his Christian friend that the Jews are going to be persecuted and driven out, so he pretends to become a Christian. The rabbi confronts him thus:
He could not tell the rabbi the truth. And as he stared at this man he did not like, he felt a sudden and terrible guilt. He longed to cry out: “I did it because the Jews are going to be expelled. I did it to save my family.” But he could not. There lay his greatest crime. He was doing nothing to warn his own people. He was going to wait as their doom approached, watch while they lost everything, including their homes, and were cast out to wander the world.
“Will you betray us then, Jacob ben Jacob?” the rabbi asked bitterly. “Will you be another Nicolas Donin?”
This was a searing accusation. For every Jew knew that Nicolas Donin, the Franciscan who’d persuaded Christendom to burn the Talmud, had been born a Jew himself. Nothing was more terrible, it was often said, than the vengeance of the traitor.
“Never!” he cried. He was deeply hurt. But it was the rabbi’s parting words that would haunt him.
“You call me a fool,” the rabbi said. “But it is you who are the fool, Jacob. You convert. You join the Christians. And you think: Now I shall be safe. But you are wrong. This I know, and this I tell you.” He shook his head. “You are a Jew, Jacob. And no matter what you do, no matter what the Christians say—believe me—you will never be safe.”
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And I think this is what people need to know. You will always be you, some people are going to hate you for no reason because of your class, race, gender, and it's not worth trying to gain such people's approval and you're better off without them.
In the end Jacob understands this and follows the rest of his community into exile rather than live a fake life among people who don't really accept him. And I wouldn't compare my situation to his but it's what I want to do too.
The city I live in is very poor and deprived and has built up a bad reputation, when you tell people you come from here you can just see the expression on their faces...
... so a lot of young people move out, try to get rid of their accents and generally deny who they are to gain middle-class respectability. And they think it's the only way to succed in life, but I wouldn't call it success if you turn your back on who you are.
In "Paris", a glorious book by Edward Rutherfurd, in 1299 Jacob ben Jacob hears from his Christian friend that the Jews are going to be persecuted and driven out, so he pretends to become a Christian. The rabbi confronts him thus:
He could not tell the rabbi the truth. And as he stared at this man he did not like, he felt a sudden and terrible guilt. He longed to cry out: “I did it because the Jews are going to be expelled. I did it to save my family.” But he could not. There lay his greatest crime. He was doing nothing to warn his own people. He was going to wait as their doom approached, watch while they lost everything, including their homes, and were cast out to wander the world.
“Will you betray us then, Jacob ben Jacob?” the rabbi asked bitterly. “Will you be another Nicolas Donin?”
This was a searing accusation. For every Jew knew that Nicolas Donin, the Franciscan who’d persuaded Christendom to burn the Talmud, had been born a Jew himself. Nothing was more terrible, it was often said, than the vengeance of the traitor.
“Never!” he cried. He was deeply hurt. But it was the rabbi’s parting words that would haunt him.
“You call me a fool,” the rabbi said. “But it is you who are the fool, Jacob. You convert. You join the Christians. And you think: Now I shall be safe. But you are wrong. This I know, and this I tell you.” He shook his head. “You are a Jew, Jacob. And no matter what you do, no matter what the Christians say—believe me—you will never be safe.”
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And I think this is what people need to know. You will always be you, some people are going to hate you for no reason because of your class, race, gender, and it's not worth trying to gain such people's approval and you're better off without them.
In the end Jacob understands this and follows the rest of his community into exile rather than live a fake life among people who don't really accept him. And I wouldn't compare my situation to his but it's what I want to do too.