What or who motivates you to get out of bed every morning?
I get out of bed because I have to, not because I want to. :)
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Color of the day!
I'm wearing a blue T-shirt and blue jeans, so I guess the color of the day is blue!
What did you dream about last night?
I don't remember.
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Have you ever gone somewhere with two different socks on?
If I have, it was an accident.
What is the one place in the world you wish you lived in?
That's a good question. I'm not sure I have the best answer because I haven't experienced a lot of places, so I don't have much to compare. If I was forced to choose a place to move to today, and money was no object, I would choose Ponce Inlet in Florida. I stayed there for a few weeks and felt more free than I've ever felt in my life. I cried when I had to leave. I haven't been able to travel much, though, as I said. I'm sure there are many places that I would like.
What’s the last video you’ve watched on YouTube? What is it about?
A popular YouTuber and his wife cut sugar for a month, and shared about their experience. The video is a lot more entertaining than it sounds. Enjoy.
https://youtu.be/wBtslkL5nUA
https://youtu.be/wBtslkL5nUA
What's the best part in life?
I enjoy conversations with my nieces.
I like finding beauty in simplicity.
Moments of inspiration and compassion keep me going.
To love and be loved to whatever extent it's possible (the definition is variable depending on the parties in question).
Human kindness and respect are things that I seek out.
Social justice is important.
Silly humor, because we shouldn't take ourselves so seriously all the time.
The right words can make life worth living.
Passion matters.
And a whole lot of naps.
I like finding beauty in simplicity.
Moments of inspiration and compassion keep me going.
To love and be loved to whatever extent it's possible (the definition is variable depending on the parties in question).
Human kindness and respect are things that I seek out.
Social justice is important.
Silly humor, because we shouldn't take ourselves so seriously all the time.
The right words can make life worth living.
Passion matters.
And a whole lot of naps.
If something happens to you who's your "go-to" person to tell, someone you trust ?
It very much depends on what that something is. I don't have one specific person that I tell everything to anymore. I have experienced a great deal of victim-blaming and ableism in my life in addition to other trauma. I find it hard to trust people, but now that I'm "40 and fed up" (ha!) I'm starting to talk about some things again. It is very stressful, though. I have a few friends online who are good listeners, and even if they don't understand, I know they care and I appreciate that they let me vent sometimes. I occasionally tell relatives things, but I have to be careful what the subject is, especially with them. I am planning to seek counseling to help me process issues of the past, but that costs money, so it's not going to happen very soon. I guess if something physically traumatic happened to me in the present, it would be ideal to tell one of my doctors.
Can there be a friendship after love?
Sure there can, but it depends on the circumstances. Some people have endured abuse or other toxic behavior and are right in removing that person from their life. But yeah, I think if a couple ended intimacy and decided they were better off friends, all the best to them in their friendship.
What is a primary fear that is holding you back?
Holding me back from what? Be more specific and I'll be able to respond.
Fav cartoon movie/show
I have nieces who are absolutely obsessed with Pokemon, so they got me started. It's the first time I've followed the show even though it's been around for two decades. I'm trying to watch all of the episodes so I can be fully informed (there are about 600 episodes). I'm finding that some seasons are far better than others. Kanto was bad. Johto was ok. I'm currently watching Advanced and don't like it much so far. I'm not familiar with Black & White yet. I loved XY/XYZ and even cried, and I like Sun & Moon more than most people do.
My older relatives (including 44 yr old brother) are keeping up with Voltron on Netflix, so I am too. I loved it in the 80s even though it was terribly sexist back then (I was too young to realize it). The reboot is fantastic in comparison to the old series.
I like a few Disney movies. Not many. Frozen and Mulan were great. The less co-dependent the female protagonist is, the better I feel about it. That shouldn't surprise anyone.
Although I don't watch them anymore, I'll never not appreciate the cartoons I grew up with - TMNT, Looney Tunes, Garfield & Friends, pretty much anything in the "Saturday Morning Cartoons" genre that I would consider nostalgia.
My older relatives (including 44 yr old brother) are keeping up with Voltron on Netflix, so I am too. I loved it in the 80s even though it was terribly sexist back then (I was too young to realize it). The reboot is fantastic in comparison to the old series.
I like a few Disney movies. Not many. Frozen and Mulan were great. The less co-dependent the female protagonist is, the better I feel about it. That shouldn't surprise anyone.
Although I don't watch them anymore, I'll never not appreciate the cartoons I grew up with - TMNT, Looney Tunes, Garfield & Friends, pretty much anything in the "Saturday Morning Cartoons" genre that I would consider nostalgia.
Why do girls' and boys' clothes have buttons on opposite sides?
Valid question. I gave it a Google. Here you go: https://www.today.com/style/here-s-why-men-s-women-s-shirts-button-opposite-t100380
If you could buy any car right now, what would you buy?
I'm perfectly fine with a Toyota Avalon. But, I will say that I do like looking at classic cars. They're pretty.
Flip-flops or sandals?
Neither, to be honest. I have too much trouble walking as it is. I need something more stable, therefore, I mostly live in athletic shoes.
What would your dream date be like?
I'm not sure. I've never been the dating type. What I do know is that I'm not materialistic, and I don't like surprises. I prefer to know exactly what a plan is before I commit to it. There is one certain person that I'd like to get to know, although I'm not anticipating that ever happening. Coffee and conversation with him in a safe and comfortable setting would make me pretty happy right now, and finding out that we have similar interests and views would be a huge bonus. Alas, I'm not going to hold my breath on any of that. I'm crazy for even thinking about it.
In regards to going out in general, I guess I like soup, quiet beaches, and sunsets. I hate shopping, and I don't drink. Dreamy isn't really something I expect from anyone, but sober, respectful, and authentic are essential.
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In regards to going out in general, I guess I like soup, quiet beaches, and sunsets. I hate shopping, and I don't drink. Dreamy isn't really something I expect from anyone, but sober, respectful, and authentic are essential.
What do you look like right now?
I'm wearing an extra large T-shirt that says "Spirit", thick socks, and my red eye glasses. My hair is a bit messy as usual.
If you could play any musical instrument, what would it be?
Piano, if I can only choose one.
What does true friendship mean to you?
I feel like I already answered this here.
https://ask.fm/ugottafriend/answers/152145949551
True friendship is pretty important in regards to health and wellness. In my case, I choose quality over quantity.
https://ask.fm/ugottafriend/answers/152145949551
True friendship is pretty important in regards to health and wellness. In my case, I choose quality over quantity.
May real men cry?
I think they should, yeah. I'm not a fan of men with macho or sexist views about crying or anything else. "Real" men, as you put it, are willing to allow and address the full range of human emotion in others and in themselves.
What is your attitude towards hunting?
I am very much against trophy/sport hunting. If someone is hunting for food, it's a little harder for me to oppose. In general, I don't really like to think about it.
Which is your song of the week?
This song has been stuck in my head all week. https://youtu.be/fNmDgRwNFsI
Are your parents married, divorced or do you hardly even know them? How has it affected your life?
This is a very personal question for a public forum. My parents are deceased. They divorced when I was six. Of course it affected my life, but I have no interest in talking about it here.
What’s the class you use/used to fall asleep in?
Biology in middle school. College Anatomy/Physiology in high school. In my defense, I was being treated for an unknown condition with the wrong medication, which was making me feel worse instead of better. I was ill and miserable.
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What is the meaning of happiness!!????
I'm going to tell you the same thing I tell everyone else. Only you can define your own happiness. However, talking to a therapist or counselor if you feel that you need someone to help you figure it out isn't a bad idea. I think everyone should seek counsel at least once in their lifetime, even if for no other reason than to confirm that they're all right.
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What’s the last time you went to a library?
I went to the library a couple of weeks ago, but I am on their online portal more regularly.
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