What was the last gift you gave someone?
Fresh baked bread, today.
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Do you like dogs?
If they're not aggressive, yes.
Why is Shrek such a great movie?
It mercilessly makes fun of Disney movies. It has Mike Myers, Eddie Murphy, Cameron Diaz, and John Lithgow, who are fun people. It had a life lesson in the midst of the satire and gross humor, annnnd most importantly, the music was awesome!
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What is one thing that many people don't know about you?
Big confession time.
Growing up, I never drank, never smoked, memorized Bible passages, wrote devotionals, was a Christian radio volunteer, sponsored a child in Brazil, taught Sunday School, held signs on the side of the highway, worked jobs to support missions and evangelical crusades, didn't pursue men, and refused intercourse until marriage. Some people are class clowns and class presidents. I was the class "goodie-two-shoes".
It was instilled in me from very early childhood that Jesus was watching my every move 24/7/365, which resulted in anxiety. I quickly learned to cope with the notion that this invisible man was in my personal space watching me sleep, pee, change clothes, and take a shower by imagining him as a guardian angel, there to protect me from harm. (Except he didn't. That's another story.) I've only recently realized how manipulated and controlled I was in addition to the abuse and neglect (yet another story) that I was already well aware of. It makes me sad to think that any innocent child would ever live that way, but that anxious child became an anxious young adult who was defined by the fire and brimstone of the people who intimidated her. It's still hard sometimes to come to terms with the fact that, for over 20 years, I was a terrified little girl trying not to piss off a prophet. Alas, that's the basis of all religion, and rationally-speaking, it was not my fault.
I left the church in my 20s, went back, and left again in my 30s. Even though I am no longer a church puppet, and I am a better human being as a result, I think my lifelong experience with religion-based trauma has ruined me and that I'll never truly escape. I am making an effort to deal with it in spite of how I feel, however. I have come a long way. I've known since adulthood that I'm not being personally monitored by the son of God. I am a realist. I am learning to stand up for myself by rejecting the judgment and mistreatment of others. Most importantly, I am looking for a therapist who carries no religious bias so I can safely process everything I've been through. Wish me luck.
Growing up, I never drank, never smoked, memorized Bible passages, wrote devotionals, was a Christian radio volunteer, sponsored a child in Brazil, taught Sunday School, held signs on the side of the highway, worked jobs to support missions and evangelical crusades, didn't pursue men, and refused intercourse until marriage. Some people are class clowns and class presidents. I was the class "goodie-two-shoes".
It was instilled in me from very early childhood that Jesus was watching my every move 24/7/365, which resulted in anxiety. I quickly learned to cope with the notion that this invisible man was in my personal space watching me sleep, pee, change clothes, and take a shower by imagining him as a guardian angel, there to protect me from harm. (Except he didn't. That's another story.) I've only recently realized how manipulated and controlled I was in addition to the abuse and neglect (yet another story) that I was already well aware of. It makes me sad to think that any innocent child would ever live that way, but that anxious child became an anxious young adult who was defined by the fire and brimstone of the people who intimidated her. It's still hard sometimes to come to terms with the fact that, for over 20 years, I was a terrified little girl trying not to piss off a prophet. Alas, that's the basis of all religion, and rationally-speaking, it was not my fault.
I left the church in my 20s, went back, and left again in my 30s. Even though I am no longer a church puppet, and I am a better human being as a result, I think my lifelong experience with religion-based trauma has ruined me and that I'll never truly escape. I am making an effort to deal with it in spite of how I feel, however. I have come a long way. I've known since adulthood that I'm not being personally monitored by the son of God. I am a realist. I am learning to stand up for myself by rejecting the judgment and mistreatment of others. Most importantly, I am looking for a therapist who carries no religious bias so I can safely process everything I've been through. Wish me luck.
Where were you born?
"in that sleepy little town called Pascagoula"
Actual song lyrics. Look them up. It's a fun song. :-)
Actual song lyrics. Look them up. It's a fun song. :-)
Do you prefer to be alone or around people?
I know I've answered this one before. I prefer being alone, but I'm perfectly OK sometimes with being around someone I am comfortable with. The challenge is getting to that point (comfortable does not come easy for me).
Do you believe that rude people should be hugged until they are nice?
That's pretty crazy. Good luck I guess.
Have you ever fallen in love with a person who is in another relationship?
Sorry to say, yes. I was very young and naive, and he turned out to be in multiple relationships. Lesson learned.
What social networking websites do you use?
Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Goodreads, MyFitnessPal
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Tumblr and Dreamwidth also, but I'm not willing to share my usernames here.
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Tumblr and Dreamwidth also, but I'm not willing to share my usernames here.
What are you busy with today?
In between naps, I'll be packing my bags for a family road trip.
Do you think that nowadays boys have become more feminine and girls more masculine?
Not really. I think the terms feminine and masculine are social constructs that we've conditioned ourselves to judge each other by, resulting in voluntary behavioral changes in people who want to fit into the box that society expects them to live in. However, people in some societies are more free to be themselves these days, so it is considered less of a deviance from the *norm than it used to be.
*There is no norm. Prejudiced people only wish there was.
*There is no norm. Prejudiced people only wish there was.
Do you like shopping Christmas gifts?
Not really. I don't like shopping in general.
(I promise I'm not as miserable and useless as I sound half the time.)
(Or maybe I am. I live alone, so who really knows?)
(I promise I'm not as miserable and useless as I sound half the time.)
(Or maybe I am. I live alone, so who really knows?)
Which fictional character would you date?
Ummmmmm uhhhhhhh shoot I can't think of anyone. How sad that I don't even have a fictional man in my head. LOL
I think ultimately I just want the men that I encounter in real life to be good people who fully respect women in general, whether they date them or not.
I think ultimately I just want the men that I encounter in real life to be good people who fully respect women in general, whether they date them or not.
You can create a new body organ: what would it do?
It would autocorrect gene and cell mutations.
What kind of life do you want to have - luxurious or adventurous?
Neither. I prefer peaceful and safe.
Aliens are coming - what peace offering do you bring them?
Cajun cuisine, mes amis!
Who do you think asked your last anonymous question?
I have no way of knowing that.
Do you believe in happy ending?
Happy endings are for idealist people like Walt Disney, but I'd like to believe happy endings can exist. I wouldn't say it's terribly realistic to think everyone can achieve such a thing, however. Not trying to be a downer, it's just life in the real world. Endings are usually pretty sad events if you stop and think about it. (Sorry, friend! I'm a realist! Have a good day!) :-)
Do you worry about your future?
Every single day.
How often do you go out to party?
Haha, never.
What’s one fashion trend you hope to never see again?
I would like for the caveman/lumberjack/whatever they're supposed to be beards to go away and never come back, but it's their face so it's really none of my business.
Would shark cage diving interest you?
This is such an oddly specific question. I can't swim or dive due to muscular dystrophy.
Will you scold your children for getting bad grades?
I won't be birthing any children.
Is there any person you are afraid of?
More people than I'd like to admit. As much as I would love to be a fearless badass, I'm usually all bark and no bite.
If you could have anything you want for dinner tonight, what would you have?
At the moment, I'd like the vegetarian platter at 7 Spice Mediterranean Grill. I miss chickpeas so much.
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