Have you ever had a secret worshipper?
I have absolutely no idea what to do with this crazy question.
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Best thing about you?
Transparency. If you pay enough attention, the chances are high that you're going to know more about me than you ever wanted to, but at least you'll know. I personally hate surprises.
Who do you find attractive?
This isn't the easiest question, but I'll do my best.
I like men who are compassionate, mature, and respectful. I like someone who allows emotions without judgment and is willing to express them himself in safe and productive ways. Empathy for mankind is absolutely essential, and any discrimination (racism, sexism, ableism, classism, etc) is an automatic turnoff, and unforgivable. If you support others who discriminate, don't expect me to like you at all. I am attracted to men who show that they truly care for others without prejudice. That pulls my heart strings.
Which brings me to this: I fall mildly into a demisexual category, so emotional connection is a requirement if I'm going to be sexually attracted to someone. It's not complicated; all that means is that genuine consideration and friendship are a must. I am hetero and I am only attracted to CIS men. I like someone who is a good communicator. He must have no addictions (that includes porn, sorry not sorry) and is a rational thinker and a reasonable person. I don't expect perfection, but I do expect solid effort in being a man of honesty, decency, and good character.
I am not attracted to control freaks, religious or not. Don't even bother me if you're going to use your belief system to debate, discriminate, instigate, manipulate, or try to dominate me into submission. You'll be out of my life in a red hot second. I am absolutely fine with people who have spiritual beliefs who remain fully respectful of others' religions or lack thereof. In fact, it's refreshing, and yes, mildly attractive. I know men who celebrate multiple (normally conflicting) religious holidays with their diverse family and friends, and I love that kind of acceptance. It's a good sign of maturity and respect.
I like men who are clean clean clean a million times clean. Stellar hygiene. No slobs or people who don't clean up after themselves; that means handling your own messes and not expecting mother or lover to do it. I repeat: clean yourself and clean your space. This is basic adulthood. A clean man is a sexy man. Anything less is not - period.
Consent/bodily autonomy is massively important, and I appreciate men who understand it and execute it. I haven't been with one yet who did, and I won't date again unless I meet someone I like who is as serious about this as I am.
Looks aren't the most important thing to me, to say the least. What I can say is that I don't seem to care for facial hair. Men can do what they want with their faces, but I don't have to like them. Height, weight, none of that matters. I've been attracted to tall men and short men. Size? Blah. Who cares. Are you PATIENT? Are you KIND? Are you CLEAN? I'm the average educated, opinionated, overweight American woman, so if you're good with ALL of the above, I'm good. Welcome, attractive dudes near and far.
I like men who are compassionate, mature, and respectful. I like someone who allows emotions without judgment and is willing to express them himself in safe and productive ways. Empathy for mankind is absolutely essential, and any discrimination (racism, sexism, ableism, classism, etc) is an automatic turnoff, and unforgivable. If you support others who discriminate, don't expect me to like you at all. I am attracted to men who show that they truly care for others without prejudice. That pulls my heart strings.
Which brings me to this: I fall mildly into a demisexual category, so emotional connection is a requirement if I'm going to be sexually attracted to someone. It's not complicated; all that means is that genuine consideration and friendship are a must. I am hetero and I am only attracted to CIS men. I like someone who is a good communicator. He must have no addictions (that includes porn, sorry not sorry) and is a rational thinker and a reasonable person. I don't expect perfection, but I do expect solid effort in being a man of honesty, decency, and good character.
I am not attracted to control freaks, religious or not. Don't even bother me if you're going to use your belief system to debate, discriminate, instigate, manipulate, or try to dominate me into submission. You'll be out of my life in a red hot second. I am absolutely fine with people who have spiritual beliefs who remain fully respectful of others' religions or lack thereof. In fact, it's refreshing, and yes, mildly attractive. I know men who celebrate multiple (normally conflicting) religious holidays with their diverse family and friends, and I love that kind of acceptance. It's a good sign of maturity and respect.
I like men who are clean clean clean a million times clean. Stellar hygiene. No slobs or people who don't clean up after themselves; that means handling your own messes and not expecting mother or lover to do it. I repeat: clean yourself and clean your space. This is basic adulthood. A clean man is a sexy man. Anything less is not - period.
Consent/bodily autonomy is massively important, and I appreciate men who understand it and execute it. I haven't been with one yet who did, and I won't date again unless I meet someone I like who is as serious about this as I am.
Looks aren't the most important thing to me, to say the least. What I can say is that I don't seem to care for facial hair. Men can do what they want with their faces, but I don't have to like them. Height, weight, none of that matters. I've been attracted to tall men and short men. Size? Blah. Who cares. Are you PATIENT? Are you KIND? Are you CLEAN? I'm the average educated, opinionated, overweight American woman, so if you're good with ALL of the above, I'm good. Welcome, attractive dudes near and far.
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If you were married can you stay with your spouse after being cheated on?
No, never.
Which Twilight character are you?
Never read or watched it.
do you open up for people first or ??
I certainly seem to, don't I? I mean, I tell a lot on here and I don't even know most of the people asking questions. Those who want to be considered a friend will have to open up as well. This one-sided silliness is not friendship. This is an entertainment site, nothing more.
What pain is harder for you: physical or spiritual?
Physical
Do you deceive well?
I don't deceive people. I'm not a sociopath.
Are you still learning who you are?
I seem to be, yes. Maybe we all are, or at least we should be. I find self-awareness to be important to a functional society, and the freedom to figure yourself out is vital to your own self-worth and life story. I know I've said this many times, but we don't reach a point in our lives when we've simply "arrived". We are always growing and changing and redefining who we are in order to adapt and live as well as possible. It is a part of our instinct, I think. Understanding our own humanity is essential to being the best version of ourselves.
On scale from 1 to 10, how addicted to sweets are you?
Ummmmmm...
Hey
Hey back.
Snapchat ?
I don't have Snapchat.
people ask you questions and you answer truthfully?
Yes, that's what happens here. :) Welcome.
Would you rather increase your intelligence or your charisma?
Intelligence for sure. There is no hope for me in the charisma department.
What name would you give to the ASKfm’s owlcat?
Query (a synonym for "question")
What did your life look like 10 years ago? @10YearChallenge
I was working temp jobs during the week and teaching painting classes on the weekends. I became too weak to continue the temp jobs, but kept teaching on the weekends and eventually decided to go back to college. I don't regret trying, but it nearly killed me, literally. Systemic disease sucks.
I look a lot older now, but that blonde hair might have to make a comeback.
I look a lot older now, but that blonde hair might have to make a comeback.
What style of hair so u like?
I'm not sure I've thought about it that much. People can do what they want with their hair. I'm not a beauty critic, but I do like a clean look.
What is your opinion of love? Is it permissible for them to do what they want, or are there red lines that they shouldnt skip?
I am slightly confused, but I think you're asking if someone who claims to love me can do whatever they want to me? Is that the question?
Edit: I really do want to know if that's the question. If I am misunderstanding it, please feel free to explain it a different way. I will answer your question if I know what you're really asking. Just making that clear.
Edit: I really do want to know if that's the question. If I am misunderstanding it, please feel free to explain it a different way. I will answer your question if I know what you're really asking. Just making that clear.
Who do you trust the most?
Myself, unfortunately, and not completely even so. Humanity has proven its two faces time and time again. We are all flawed people.
Do you think that money can buy love?
I can't speak for anyone else, but I've proven that it does not buy mine.
What’s your longest relationship?
I've known my brother for almost 41 years.
Be more specific next time. :)
Be more specific next time. :)
Which animal is your spirit animal?
John Green.
Otherwise, I suppose it would be an owl, an elephant, or a clumsy panda.
Otherwise, I suppose it would be an owl, an elephant, or a clumsy panda.
do u believe that the helicopter met with a UFO in the sky over the US?
I have no idea what you're talking about, and something tells me I should be glad of it.
How good are you at saying "no"?
Depends on the question and who's asking it! I do have a harder time saying no to certain people, but not others.
Where do you envision yourself living in the future?
Only God knows. I figure I'll be stuck here till I die.
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