salam.i read ur article and i stumbled about it is impossible to live in people expectations(or hard?).isnt all expectations?because some expectations may inspire us.example our parents expect us to get the highest mark,eventually we manage to get it.so, im trying to say is expectation is good right
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Are you referring to this -> http://ask.fm/syazanazura/answer/127355903826? Or are you referring to some other articles that I can't seem to remember if there's even any other.
The thing is, there's no clear line between how much 'expectations' is considered 'okay', and how much is considered 'too much'.
Sure, some expectations are good, and can push us to go further, to push us to do better in things. That's totally fine, since our parents or teachers have had more experience and can see what our potentials are. If people have faith in us and believe that we can do more things and achieve more successes, it gives us the confidence in ourselves and help us push further.
But the thing is... You got to be careful of the level of expectation that you put on someone. As a parent, you cannot expect your kid to do well in everything without ever failing to meet your expectations. You got to give people room to screw up, to make mistakes, to fail and learn from that failure. Life isn't always going to be sunny or a walk in the park, so you have to know when to lower your expectation and when to allow people to take it at their own pace.
People aren't born to be perfect, and sometime, other people's expectations may be completely different from what you want to do. Your parents may expect you to pursue Medicine or Law or Engineering, but deep down, you know you suck at them and that you want to go into Business or Journalism or something that you know you're good at. Would you actually force yourself to go into something you hate, just because that's what people 'expect' you to do? Would you actually sacrifice what you want, just to fulfill what people think you should be doing?
'Cause, you know, at the end of the day, it is your life, not theirs. And you'll be the one who has to live with it for the next few decades (if panjang umur that is) and make a living out of it, so might as do things that you love and are passionate about, no?
Are you referring to this -> http://ask.fm/syazanazura/answer/127355903826? Or are you referring to some other articles that I can't seem to remember if there's even any other.
The thing is, there's no clear line between how much 'expectations' is considered 'okay', and how much is considered 'too much'.
Sure, some expectations are good, and can push us to go further, to push us to do better in things. That's totally fine, since our parents or teachers have had more experience and can see what our potentials are. If people have faith in us and believe that we can do more things and achieve more successes, it gives us the confidence in ourselves and help us push further.
But the thing is... You got to be careful of the level of expectation that you put on someone. As a parent, you cannot expect your kid to do well in everything without ever failing to meet your expectations. You got to give people room to screw up, to make mistakes, to fail and learn from that failure. Life isn't always going to be sunny or a walk in the park, so you have to know when to lower your expectation and when to allow people to take it at their own pace.
People aren't born to be perfect, and sometime, other people's expectations may be completely different from what you want to do. Your parents may expect you to pursue Medicine or Law or Engineering, but deep down, you know you suck at them and that you want to go into Business or Journalism or something that you know you're good at. Would you actually force yourself to go into something you hate, just because that's what people 'expect' you to do? Would you actually sacrifice what you want, just to fulfill what people think you should be doing?
'Cause, you know, at the end of the day, it is your life, not theirs. And you'll be the one who has to live with it for the next few decades (if panjang umur that is) and make a living out of it, so might as do things that you love and are passionate about, no?
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