I just got some info that the guy I'm seeing is a complete fraud! He even lied about his name like who does that? I've been seeing him for nearly 3 months now. What should I do? Do I ask/ why he lied to me or should I just drop him (even tho that is so hard)

April 10, 2015

Of course you should ask. He has some 'splainin to do. However, this is a major RED flag.

I'm having a dilemma I just got out of a serious-ish relationship, I've never had sex before but I'm considering just losing it on a one night stand,because well I can't wait anymore and also I feel it's too much to emotionally deal with if I sleep with a guy I'm seeing then we split up

April 10, 2015

You have to make sure it's something you've thought about. Having a one night stand doesn't take away from the emotional side. Just make sure your safe & whoever you choose to sleep with is also healthy.

Thanks in advance xx

April 10, 2015

Np x

Hey, I get hung up on when a guy disrespect me for example taking to another girl while he's talking to me even if we are not official and inside it really does hurt m. I want to stop feeling like this, do you have any ideas how I could start

April 10, 2015

You have to just be logical & mature about your feelings. It's okay to have them, it's normal but realise the status of your relationship. A way to move past it? Talk & date more than one person. You'll find it harder to get bugged out.

Getting married soon?

April 10, 2015

I better.

What's your favorite dessert?

April 10, 2015

Chocolate cake.

You said I should move on from the guy that locked the phone on me but its not so easy! I really do like him I just want answers as to why he does this! He went from me meeting his family to this ;/

April 10, 2015

But he hung up on you? You made it seem like it was someone you just started speaking to. Have you tried reaching out for answers??

I'm seeing this guy, everything is fine but I'm not sure if I'm his gf or not it's been like 5 months. I don't know whether I should ask or just leave it. I really like him I don't want to spoil anything my asking

April 10, 2015

Why would you spoil anything by asking what the status of your relationship is? Are you confident that he likes you too? If so you shouldn't have no doubts love!

Sometimes when you say just move on its not so easy

April 10, 2015

It's not easy, it requires steps, such as the NC rule. Meeting new people, keeping yourself busy. There are many steps, find the best one for YOU!

I've been seeing this guy but for the past week he's been acting funny. I called him yesterday and as soon as he heard my voice he locked off the phone. Do you think it bcos he's found someone else

April 09, 2015

Please move on.

I met this guy in Summer I wasn't interested at all in the beginning he wrked to get my attention I grew feelings we hv been intimate. Fast track to 2015 he doesn't seem interested he airs my messages doesn't call it hurts wat should I do?

April 09, 2015

You have to pick yourself up & move on. It hurts when you invest time into someone only to have it not work out. But so what?! You'll be fine & you WILL lean from that experience. Make sure you're out there getting to know new guys and not giving too much too soon.

I've been hurt by men or should I say boys to the point where my trust is literally non existent. I kno all guys aren't the same but I find it hard to talk to or maintain a good conversation with a guy I'm very insecure I look it the mirror and don't blame guys for hurting me, any advice would help

April 09, 2015

First off you're going to have build up your confidence! You can't talk crazy like that & expect results. It won't happen. The only way to avoid hurt is to be alone. Grab a copy of my book on Sunday '100 Questions' there are answers in there that will help you.

Is the book free ?

April 09, 2015

http://simplyoloni.com/brand-new-ebook-100-questions-by-dami-olonisakin/

Hey, my friends vagina STINKS and its so bad because people talk about it behind her back but to her face don't say anything and give each other 'eye' for example today we thought someone farted but then we clocked its her legs that were open:( how do i tell her...

April 09, 2015

You talk to her on her own & as a friend. Tell her that she might need to go to the clinic to get it checked out. It could be vb and she has no clue.

Hey hun, so my ex boyfriend and I talk from time to time and sometimes he flirts with me giving me mixed messages. Then times he airs me for days. I feel like he doesn't understand that he is playing with my feelings esp. As he broke up w me. What do I do

April 09, 2015

You let him know how you feel but also remove yourself from the equation. In order for him to stop, you also can't entertain him boredom.

Confused about this.. Is it racist if a white guy says to me "I like seeing my white c*m on your dark skin"? I know it's a power thing but is it racist?

April 09, 2015

It's not racist, but if it bothers you speak up.

I'm basically seeing this guy at first he would text me everyday but now it's every other day, I have a feeling he's loosing interest in me, and it kinda hurts what do can I do to get over him?

April 09, 2015

You can't do anything. If he's loosing interest he's loosing interest. Wouldn't you rather date someone who's 'utterly obsessed with you' - Ella December

im finding it hard to get over my ex, i feel sick from the idea that i'll never be w him again, even if its for the best. its been a month now and i dont want to be left behind whilst he moves on. i'm scared all this thinking will lead me back to him, but im finding it hard to forget about him

April 09, 2015

Hey love break up are never easy & we all handle them differently. My new book 100 Questions out this Sunday answers this question in more detail. Make sure you get it!

she wants me to stop going clubbing completely but I dont want to

April 09, 2015

Then talk about it with her. Why has she asked you to?

I want to go clubbing my gf is against it as she says I dont listen to her and she doesnt want me to take drugs or drink which I promised I wont, any ideas on how to deak with this?

April 09, 2015

Compromise. If you wanted to drink or take drugs you could do that anywhere, going out doesn't stop that. Explain this to her.

What do you class as infidelity is it only physical cheating?

April 09, 2015

Nope! Emotionally & physically giving yourself to someone outside of your relationship.

Hi, I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months now and he has told me that he has problems with opening up/expressing his feelings. How can I encourage him to do so?

April 08, 2015

Hey dear this is a very popular question I receive. Read this frequently asked question in my new book #100Questions out April 12 on simplyoloni.com only.

Hey. Don't know if this is your area of expertise, but what's your interpretation of 'submission'? What is a wife submitting? What does it mean?

April 08, 2015

It is definitely an area dear. Submission has a very warped misconception. To some it's when a woman is keeps 'quiet' or never voices her opinion over her mans & it isn't, to me submission is to support your partner by understanding his role as the man in the relationship.

It's to support his decisions and to work as ONE. A man will always be the head of the household.. But it's the woman who is the neck & can change it wherever she feels.

Hey Oloni, I read your ask.fm and I appreciate that you take time ,to advise and help people.I am sure your work is making a difference to someone's life everyday and I feel like by reading your ask.fm it is helping me to grow as an individual and see relationships differently.xx

April 08, 2015

Aww thank you! Don't forget to check out the blog simplyoloni.com & my new book 100 Questions coming out on Sunday xx

2 so I left him after 6 months of putting in effort into getting him to like me. Is that the right choice? Are his boys the reason he won't wife me? I haven't fucked him but he still wanted me in his life.

April 08, 2015

Ask him, but if I'm honest you should really leave all of this alone.

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