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...I don't understand what he really wants or How his going about this I prayed about it but it seems like I'm supposed to stick around his mother passed recently and so his a really self kept guy

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I've been seeing a guy since January really nice we get along well when we speak I met up with him and had sex the first time we met after that he was just hard to get hold of he stopped poping up then he poped up once wanting to to meet up we did..then we had sex again then he repeated what he did.

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Where is the best place to meet a girl? a serious one?

Serious girls can be met anywhere. I'd say networking events however.

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How do you make the first move on a guy? I've been seeing a guy in my uni that I'll like to get to know but I'm too shy to approach him, what should I do?

Just say hi & smile!

I asked a guy I liked who liked me we were together for like 2 months and I still love him two years later to have sex with me and he didn't reply I'm a virgin 23 I want to have sex with him I want him to be the one to take it I don't meet new guys and I've tried online dating and stuff no luck :(

Girllll you need to read the whole of 100 Questions. http://goo.gl/OKRgCT

I've tried acne products, medical help, everything they don't work, every regime so it's not a lack of skincare issue. I just get worried they won't like me. Guys seem to like smooth skinned girls. Any advice? (2)

Hey love! I can relate, when I was younger my skin was bad!! Really bad. We did praise & worship and still nothing changed. It was a part of puberty and learning what food groups i need to stay away from. See a dermatologist and drink a LOT water. I bath & wash my face 2/3 times a day and with the right products it's controlled. Plus I'm in a relationship. So it is possible. Don't let your insecurities bum you out.

Hi Oloni, I get so scared to meet new people, I have a bit of acne not all over my face but in central regions. It makes me worried he won't like me when we meet up so I don't go or feel really self conscious when I do (1)

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Hey, I was seeing this guy but I found out he has a wife which made me sick to my stomach. What do I do? I should I address this situation?

Treat just like the many women i advice who find out a guy theyre dating has a SO. Read it here also http://goo.gl/OKRgCT you'll be fine x

I met up with boy yesterday and we really hit it off it was so good. We talked about a lot and everything and it seemed lovely. However he hasn't texted or contacted me in anyway I'm so confused as to why? I don't know if he's playing a game or something it's so annoying as I think I like him.

Hey dear i answer a similar question in 100 Questions get it here http://goo.gl/OKRgCT

2) I'm more scared for my brother because I don't want him going back, prison screwed with him. The guy deserves everything he gets tbh. I don't know if I should get involved because this might be karma for him...

You need do whatever you can to keep your brother away from this guy who hurt you as will only create a bigger problem.
I understand he want to take control but nothing positive will come from it. He can't go around hurting every single person who hurts you, no matter what the scenario is.
If he truly deserves everything that's coming to him, then let it. Karma doesn't take any naps.

1) in 1st year I was seeing a guy in Coventry who ended up screwing me over quite badly. I let it go. But recently I've been hearing he has screwed over quite a few more girls. I was speaking to my brother about it & he's angry he wants to kill him(literally) he's been in prison before I'm scared...

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2) to tell her and what can I do to try get it back on track. I don't talk to all my female friends again

She's saying that out of anger mostly due to the fact that, the truth hurts. You were right to tell her but like i always say, not all relationships can work after infidelity you have to be patient, figure out why you keep cheating & TALK to her about how you both feel.

I've cheated twice and I told my girl myself. Our relationship hasn't gone back to normal and I don't expect it to anytime soon, I love her and she still wants to be with me because I'm really not like that, she gets angry when she remembers and she says she wishes she never knew, was it right to (1

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As soon as I sleep with a guy once all feelings I had before disappear, like when we're going on dates and talking frequently I have strong feelings but once we've took that next step I barely speak to him. They say I lead them on but my intentions are never bad, how can I stop this happening?

Try a different approach. Maybe waiting a little longer? Try to establish a strong connection if you feel as if this is something that happens quite often.

I know you've answered many questions about fwb in #100questions (btw I read it and love it!) but I'm in an awkward position. Since me and my fwb began having sex I feel like our friendship has vanished and I want it back. I've tried asking him to meet up but every time I do he assumes it's for sex

Thanks for getting a copy!! When you ask to meet up, let him know what you'd like to discuss so he doesn't get the wrong idea.

Is it a bad thing if my boyfriend never pays for anything? Even our one year anniversary date we split the Bill. More times than not I will pay for both of us. He earns the same or more then me! He's sweet apart from this but it's killing me, I don't feel appreciated.

You should bring this to his attention. That's stingy! A gentleman doesn't always pay, but he TREATS his woman.
Speak to him about it, just because he earns a lot doesn't mean his financial status is healthy.

I have a problem. I think I am really shallow and I've realised recently that maybe I don't give the good guys a chance at all. But it's hard... I've always felt that if I'm not attracted to someone physically first that it's highly unlikely anything more would happen. Is this a bad thing?

Hey love! I answer this properly in 100 Questions http://simplyoloni.com/product/100-questions/

My boyfriend is really upsetting and disappointing me a lot recently. I love him but wonder if this will actually change and if I need to let go?

Have you spoken to him about it? You need to! If nothing changes do whats best for YOU.

The guy I'm seeing keeps asking me if I love him. I usually keep silent or say I don't know but I do feel like I'm falling in love n have the potential to love him but want to tell him in my own time. But I'm just wondering what you think him asking me means?

He's asking cus he want to make sure you're on the same page.
Here's an idea. Instead of awkwardly keeping quiet one day tell him how you feel, tell him what you told me!

Am I wrong for not wanting my bf to be in contact with a female friend who he's slept with around 6 months before we got together. It just bothers me. I don't mind female friends but because they have been intimate i feel a kinda way everytime he say he's spoken to her or she messaged him etc

I can see why you're bothered by it. It makes you uncomfortable the fact that he's still speaking to a girl he was physical with a few months ago. It gets to you & if their friendship isn't that important it holds no value.
Have a conversation with him. Speak your mind, if he doesn't understand then you both have different morals. They may not be bad morals, but just not the same.

My boys girl sent me a nude photo once. she said it was an accident but has done it again twice since. I won't lie and say I'm not attracted to her or haven't entertained it a little, but what should i do now

You need to tell him, you crossed the line when you entertained the photos.

What do you do when you feel morally compromised with a person you're dating, even though he is a good guy? Do you work it out or call it quits?

It really does depend.

Are saggy boobs really unattractive? every guy I've slept with has made a negative comment about my breasts not being perky enough. It's made me completely hate my body. I fear getting naked before men. What do I do?

Hey love, I'm sorry to hear about the negative comments you've had to deal with. The truth is we all have our insecurities if it's not our breasts it's our bum, if it's not our bum it's our cellulite, stretch marks. Things we can't change.
You need to meet better guys who are not insensitive or disrespectful towards you. As I promise you many men do not talk or think this way.

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