.....I don't believe in just leaving a guy & moving on after he cheat & letting 'karma ' take its course , I AM KARMA, il will ruin this guys life, he messed me up , I gave him everything , his now made me so insecure about myself & the funny thing I never wanted to be with him in the 1st place

April 06, 2015

You turn into karma & then WHAT exactly!?? I think you should stay away and be happy you never wasted any more time. You're clearly hurt but you're going about this the absolute wrong way.

Hi hun 2 years ago I met a guy who was really interested in me when I wernt interested or even liked him eventually that changed, he was really persistent now over time he start acting different( just as all men do) & as soon as he went uni this year he try cut me off. Now girl after the shit I gav

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I fell in love with a guy I met online in 2009. Im from manc - hes from wales and he wont let me meet him, We've skyped and everyt but he's had excuses now for 6 years :/ we both drive. I'm 20 and Im a virgin bc I've been waiting for him. He's always said he'd love to be with me :/ do I cut him off?

April 06, 2015

Yes, cut him off & FAST! 6 years is a very LONG time.

(4) he says he wants to be a better version of himself first which I understand but I want to help him on his journey. I dunno if I should bring it up or leave it cos things are good but I can't help but think maybe it'll never be cos it's been over a year and he already committed to someone b4?? xx

April 06, 2015

This isnt going anywhere if I'm honest & he sounds like he's full of excuses. It's like you're a fluffer he always returns to. I touch on this in my new ebook 100 Questions. Read it, it's out April 12th.

(3) he'd fallen in love with me and tbh I'd fallen for him too. We resumed the intimacy and everything has been good since, like we've met each others family (although not introduced as bf and gf) and we've become exclusive however when talking about being together he says he's not ready yet..

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(2) until he got a gf so we ended the intimacy but he still came to see me all the time (we went to uni together and I lived really close) as he didn't want to lose the friendship and that resulted in us becoming closer eventually "best friends". When he broke up with his gf he said during that time

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(1) Hi Oloni, basically I'm stuck because I've been having sex with a boy on and off for over a year now who has become my best friend and while we're happy atm we've found ourselves in sticky situations in the past and I fear it could happen again. At the beginning it was casual and it was fine...

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Oloni how do i buy your book and how many do you have?

April 06, 2015

The new one isn't out yet! But the rest are available on http://simplyoloni.com/product-category/book/

Im 21 and my boyfriend is 27, we been through a lot for these previous three years. Im pregnant with his child im giving birth soon. We are proper in love, but sometimes i think about the pass how he cheated on me. How can i fully stop thinkin about that? He told my parents he wants to marry me afte

April 06, 2015

Hey love. Congrats for starters! Thinking about a past that hurt you will not be easy, but you have a life to think about & a decision to make (wether or not you want to be w/ your bf).

The trouble with forgiving a lover who has wronged us before is not being able to forget. Some women can, others can't.

Try talking to him and explaining how you feel. As for marriage, dont rush into anything due to what his family wants. It's you who makes those vows, not them.

Part 2 I found out that he took the girl to where he took me for my bday So I got really angry and I punched him repeatedly and he call the police on me and I was charged now I have a criminal record.. And Im scared I might lose my job because you can't have a criminal record..

April 06, 2015

Sorry to hear that. Right, now I'd suggest you move into a friend or family members place. And ask one if them to pack your stuff. Living together is clearly not the best idea. And if this was your first criminal offence I'm guessing it was more of a caution which isn't as bad. However you do need to let those at your work know.

Hi Part 1 My boyfriend n I moved into together and then I found out that he cheated on me, when I ask why he said it wasn't my fault I was a good woman, he just wanted something different. I don't know what to do because I can't afford all of the rent and we have a year contract so torn n broken

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Is the age gap between 18 and 22 too much? A graduate and a first year student?

April 06, 2015

Nope, seems fine to me.

I'm 21 & It's been about 2 years since I last had sex. I promised myself I wasn't going to get intimate with any guy unless I was definitely sure I wanted to be with him. I have done the whole casual sex thing before and it ended really badly. I think I'm at my limit now in terms of sexual urges, I

April 06, 2015

I have a page on this in my brand nee ebook. 100 Questions. 12th April!

I'm 15 and the guy who speaks to me is 21..he thought I was 19 when we started speaking, I get told all the time I don't look my age and I'm older. He wants a relationship with me however we aren't going to have sex or do anything until I'm 17.. I shouldn't feel like I'm doing something wrong right?

April 06, 2015

Wrong. You're 15 & a 21 year old should want nothing to do with you as soon as he finds out your real age. Waiting doesn't cut it either.

What really is the best revenge on an ex who cheated on you?

April 06, 2015

Moving on.

I emailed you.xxxx

April 06, 2015

Thank you! Will get to it as soon as I can xx

I'm 20 and I haven't kissed anyone let alone sleep with anyone. I'm not happy with myself physically so i tend to become everyone's friend before it turns into something flirty. I do get men who are attracted to me but I'm so nervous I always shoot it down. My mum thinks that it's becoming a proble

April 06, 2015

You're 20! & believe it or not, it is NOT unheard of. I've answered this question a zillion times, so instead wait to to read more about it in my new book 100 Question, out April 12 available on simplyoloni.com ONLY x

Cheating is bad but can and would you compare sleeping with someone to sending messages

April 06, 2015

Of course not. One is clearly more terrible than the other.

I'm the girl who was talking about her bf saying some girl is his cousin but they're just friends. You said I should just move on but I see him all the time, I don't want to get back with him but I want to know why he would lie to me like that. Or when I see him should I just wave and just pass like

April 06, 2015

Nope, you cut him off & ignore him. You confront it, then what?? Nothing changes, at all. I understand you want closure, but like I've mentioned on here multiple times, it's not essential.

I was seeing a guy for about three months, thought it was going somewhere, I decided to have sex with him (he was my first) and then we just stopped talking, he didn't contact me as much and I didn't want to seem like the clingy Virgin, should I have spoken up?

April 06, 2015

You could have, and being expecting a guy to speak to you after sex is very basic. It doesn't make you clingy at all! I touch on this in my ebook 100 Questions. Out April 12th make sure you read it x

I was with my ex boyfriend for a month then he broke up with me, we remained cordial until one night I wanted to sleep with him, we have sex and he calls me during the day to see how I am. I wanna give us another shot what do you think?

April 06, 2015

Talk to him about it! But remember he broke up with YOU. So don't be disheartened if things don't pan out just because you were both physical again.

3) that I deserve better than waiting around for him to me and that I won't waste my time with someone that I actually like. I wanted to make plans for us to meet but he never seemed enthusiastic. Did I do the right thing?

April 06, 2015

You did the right thing! It's clear he's only interested if it's for 'fun' and not actually dating. Keep swiping.

2) everything and just meet him, I explained to him that I understand he's working a lot but if he wants to meet with me, at least call me in advance to arrange a decent time to meet me, then he was like "I'm not really free until July so if we're still speaking by then I'll see you" I told him

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1)I've chatting to a guy I met on tinder for a while, he's busy working two jobs so we've never met up, but at 9pm tonight I got a message from him saying "finished work! Want to meet up?"bear in mind I live an hour away from him and I don't drive! I told him that he can't expect me to drop

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I see him all the time do I just say hi like nothing's wrong or ask to talk to him. If I'm honest I don't want to get back with him, I just want to know why he lied about her being his cousin when she was just a friend. Like is he sick in the head. The way we ended was so bad, we literally stopped t

April 06, 2015

Just do as I mentioned earlier. My advice still stands regardless of the holes others think may exist.

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