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when girls sleep around a man can never really have that sense of pride....it's like having something/someone that everyone else has had. It's so rank. Plus not to mention the fact other boys, who have been there first will definitely banter about it. I personally couldn't do it.

Everyone has their own preferences, but if something like a woman's past stops you from holds you back, when you like her, what does that say about you?

Whats your view on being engaged to your partner but having sex before marriage?

Nothing wrong with it, whatever works for the couple.

Its been a while since i last had 'full' sex and i really miss it. Am i wrong for hooking up with my ex just for the sex?

You're not wrong for it, but ask yourself if youre going back purely for sex or more. There's nothing wrong with admitting to the latter, because if it's just sex you're after you could sleep with someone else who you don't have an emotional connection with.

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Am I a fool for cutting off every other girl for this girl who may not want anything ?

Yes, if youre not exclusive theres no point.

i have this one close friend who holds me down and i talk to about my relationship and she tells me about her relationship woes too. BUT she does occasionally tell me about her other close friend's relationship. is this a red flag to show that she might be disclosing my issues to others as well.

Interesting question. Be careful because if she is tellung you her other friends rship troubles she's defitnitley doing the same with you. Especially if she mentions their names instead of 'i knew someone' out of respect & privacy.

Hey hey, a couple of months ago I was seeing someone, it didn't work out but we recently started talking again and when I was drunk I said we should be friends with benefits. I think I am capable of having sex with no strings attached but I've heard so many horror stories from girls.. advice?

Friends with benefits does come with drama if feelings get involved from either side. You have to make sure you purely in it for the sex and that alone! I think a good way around it is by only talking when it involves when you're going to sleep with each other. If you're going to be bff's and have sex forget it.

I use to play mummies and daddies with my brother. I've always had feelings for him since then. Now I'm grown and he has a girlfriend. Which really angers me. How do I shake these feelings off as I feel I'm gunna do something stupid.

Don't do anything stupid & seek therapy/counselling asap.

After years of wanting this guy I kept it friendly. Now role reversal - he wants me; he's ready. I'm cautious now. My heart says yes. My head says no. Do I go for it??!

You're clearly scared and that's fine.Your heart is saying yes & I'm a firm believer of doing what the heart says. Just take it slowly so it all pans out well.

one of my guy friends acts like we are dating even when he is around and other guys stare or show interest he acts all cocky and gassed should i tell him to chill

Don't use those words exactly, but yes, do tell him how you feel. That's stopping your chances of meeting people if he carries on

Is fingering myself as a woman bad? My friends said I should look into getting a toy but I think a finger is more appropriate and affectionate. You know the real deal?

Fingering yourself as a woman isn't bad at all. Every woman has their own way they like to be sexually fulfilled, that could be with a finger, a bullet, or dildo vibrator. Its your orgasm so what ever makes it happen, do.

Hi oloni I went on a double date with my boyfriend and his friends and gf. The guy that came was a guy i used to sleep with a few years ago. nothing serious...... i know its my past but should i say something. The whole date was awkward.

That must have been uncomfortable. Tell him, it was many years ago, but it's best it comes from the person he's in a relationship with. It might not be easy, however I think he'll appreciate you never kept quiet about it.

How do females who are not virgins feel about virgins? Is there some kind of silent hostility? Discuss.

I dont think I can speak for all women who aren't virgins, but I think the hostility that you speak on happens with some people. The same goes for women who are virgins too it's not a one sided thing.

My body count. I think he likes me but I he doesn't want to admit it. What do I do.

Hey, this whole situation seems confusing. You can email me if you'd like to explain properly as I think the word limit on here doesn't help.

A woman. In general, I thought I could teach him how to love a woman but for those 10years homeboy has failed. It's annoying because I feel like I love him. I just don't know what to do anymore. Sometimes I feel like he's embarrassed about me too simply because I'm known and he kinda knows my body

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He doesn't have sex cause he say he's a Christian smh. But yet he will throw it in my face that I'm stressing him out ect ect. I feel like he feels he's some what made it in life and he think he can just do whatever now. It's annoying. Like yeah your talented but you'll never be able to satisfy a

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I'm tired! Literally, I feel I know the solution already but I think I need to hear it from you. I've been in a some what relationship with a guy for more than 10 years. Listening to he's ideas, help execute he's ideas, give him oral sex when he wants..

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I use to date a guy couple years back. I was 21 and he was 31. He really wanted to get married and i wasn't ready for marriage. Tbh he really wanted children because he kept referring to he's age, the idea of marriage just came about because I guess that's the right way to do things and not be fro

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I feel embarrassed being a virgin. Like I'm missing a piece to my maturity that everyone else around me has.

You shouldn't feel embarrassed. Having sex is a step you take when you're ready not because it's the subject of conversations with your girls.

I took a friend to the park, we held hands on our way to the park kissed & hugged. But I never told her I liked her. That same day she calls me up tellin me she miss me and I told her we're just friends. Did I do something wrong? Because this girl has been bitter about it for 9 good months.

9 months is an awful long time. You did nothing wrong, you were honest and probably kissed because you were in the moment. I say try talking to her.

I would love to be able to speak to u of a situation I'm currently in confidentially

You can email me, itsOloni@gmail.com everything will be private & confidential.

Is it right for a guy to expect girlfriend treatment from a girl that's not his girlfriend but is dating her?

Should he expect it? NO! If it happens it happens but be cautious, before you turn into a girlfriend fluffer.

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