Me and my boyfriend broke up a last month after being together for a year and having a friendship of 4years. He contacted me last week to tell me he misses and has continued to do so. I've been contemplating to text him to see how he is doing but I don't know if I should..

October 18, 2014

It's up to you, do what you feel is right.

It's a bit of both, I feel like I'm ready to love someone and I just want to be held really. The sex is only a benefit

October 18, 2014

Well like I'm sure you've heard. The right person will come along when it's time. A boyfriend isn't something you wake up one day and decide to buy online. So be patient!!

I really want a boyfriend and everyone keeps telling me to be patient but I've been single for so long it's exhausting now.

October 18, 2014

Do you want a boyfriend or the benefits of having a boyfriend?

JJ.. Am I being a strung along should I cut him off? And I've told him to drop me out and we stop talking for periods of time then just fall back again. Am I being naïve? Should I wait & go with the flow? Oh yh and we've never kissed or anything like that either, I've just never met anyone like him

October 18, 2014

Aww I can tell you really like him, but first ALWAYS REMEMBER sex does not = a relationship status. EVER. Many women wish it did, but it doesn't. you can have a relationship without sex.

So remember that for when someone who wants to be with you comes along. You don't have to carry on cutting him off, it's clearly pointless. What I'd suggest is keeping your friendship at a different level. So try not to be as close, keep yourself busy and like I've said for the past 4 days to other girls go out and meet more new people. Do not compare them to him, because they're going to lose. You can't sit down and wait forever.

JJ.. But it doesn't work out.. And I always have him in the back of my mind or compare potentials to him and our relationship as friends. He's made it clear he doesn't want a relationship and I accept this I try talk to other people and we even talk about other people to each other...

October 18, 2014

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JJ.. Like maybe I hold some hope for us one day and I feel like he thinks I do too. But i don't think I do I'm happy to be friends cos of how we connect but I'm thinking maybe this isn't a healthy friendship when we easily cross lines in conversations, and I try give other guys a chance but it..

October 18, 2014

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JJ Me and my friend are/ were attracted to each other but he doesn't want a relationship and I'm not ready for just sex.. So we never got it together. We can talk about everything for hours but he still talks like he would go there if I let him and I always shut it down but I feel like I hold...

October 18, 2014

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Your views on homosexuality?

October 18, 2014

Love is love.

I'm 21 and I feel like I have a good personality (if I do say so myself lool) but the guys I do decide to give my number or get to know etc. When they find out I'm A Virgin and Christian their behaviour changes.. Talk less etc. I feel like I keep attracting the same kind of guy But I don't know why

October 18, 2014

You need a new circle of people to be around. Those who won't change their behaviour due to your religion and sexuality. Try giving your number to someone who your probably wouldn't, sometimes we as women have a taste and try the same thing over and over, expecting something to be different. Let me know how it goes!

How do you think a guy should get out of the friend zone?

October 18, 2014

It depends on the girl, we're all different. But patience has always been a virtue

MP- hey Hun quick update I took your advice and realised that maybe it was infuation rather than love. Anyway the guy I've been seeing for 6 months asked me to be his gf today and I said yes. I'm not sure that I made the right decision but I guess time will tell I like him but it might be too soon

October 17, 2014

This is isn't bad, and can help you move on. Just make sure you really want this and that it isn't a rebound. x

Sometimes I feel like I'm at my wits end with life. I just want to give up because I don't feel like I'm ever going to get it right....I don't know what to do or how to keep the faith and motivation to keep going.

October 17, 2014

Life doesn't have a step by step book. You have to find your own purpose and trust in yourself. If you want to talk properly, please email me itsOloni@gmail.com

My boyfriend of almost 2 years hardly shows any emotions, he hardly says I love you, he doesn't say sweet things, nothing. But he never lets me go without anything, he takes care of me in other ways. The only "con" I can say about him is he really isn't there for me emotionally. What do I do?

October 17, 2014

Just because he takes care of you in other ways doesn't mean you have to settle for the lack of affection he shows you. Show him how you want to be loved, people in general will only treat you how you treat yourself. Tell him you love him, if he doesn't say it back, I think you have a problem and need to talk about it.

dating more than one person at once. Your thoughts?

October 17, 2014

If you've made it clear to all parties that you're not exclusively dating them. Then I think it's fine.

I feel like I will never find anyone as compatible. At uni boys always try to hola but they're not him. I still love him but I know if we try and work it out again it won't be the same and won't work out. How do I move on

October 17, 2014

You're also at that stage where you're comparing ever other guy to your ex. Pray the next guy you meet isn't like him, but better.

I was in a relationship with a guy for about 3 years. After we broke up we spoke for a while but eventually it stopped. It's been about 6 months and I miss him so much, he doesn't feel the same way about me and has moved on but I can't seem to .......

October 17, 2014

Three years is long, so I can understand why. The truth is it will take time, but just know in another 6 months it wont be like that. These are just temporary feelings. YOU CAN MOVE ON and you will, just give yourself more time, and when you do, go out more , date more, meet new people and see what the world has to offer.

so i started sleeping with this guy i like, but he's just terrible in bed. The worst part is he thinks he's good.

October 17, 2014

You don't want to burst his ego, so the next time you have sex, simply tell him the things you like being done to you from foreplay to penetration. Guide him and help.. Or even better you can take control.

MS- I feel like he may be seeing other people since we haven't even kissed yet which is find weird. Do you think this might be the case?

October 16, 2014

He could be, I don't see why not. He isn't in a relationship, but do the same to!!

MS- more of an effort as we used to only talk like once a month and meet up but because we go to the same uni we talk weekly. I don't want to be clingy and push communication but I don't want to waste my time when I don't know how he feels. What should I do? Should I ask him where it's going or not?

October 16, 2014

If he hasn't proved anything, then don't hold you breath. Continue how you are but see other people too, Eggs basket and such.

MS- so I've been seeing a guy since January and he says he's wants to take things further but has done nothing to prove this. We've never kissed or gone further and we've gone out on a couple of dates. We go to the same uni but the communication isn't there. I'm feeling like I should make more of a.

October 16, 2014

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SH: im in uni now and trying to make my life not revolve around guys and their problems but its always been like this since high school and its frustrating being in that position and seeing other girls in great relationships etc, I dont know maybe im just being stupid.. X

October 16, 2014

Men in general are always searching for sex, so do not feel alone. I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you but yes I do get this often and I'll tell you what I tell other girls. GO OUT MORE, MEET NEW PEOPLE! If you're constantly around the same people, you will get the same results, despite going off to uni.

SH: Interested in me apart from sex, most of the older guys I've been with don't work out. I'd like to think I'm a nice, down to earth, chilled kind of girl, but guys my age always see me as one of the lads, want me for sex or ignore me all together, I just dont understand.

October 16, 2014

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SH: hi, I don't know how many times you've heard this through your emails/askfms but I dont understand why men don't feel attracted to me other than for sexual purposes, I don't constantly have my self on show and I'm not impressivly attractive or have outstanding features. No guys my age are

October 16, 2014

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I've been with my girl for two years and usually wait for her to come home from work at her house but the last couple of times I waited I've had sex with her younger sister (4 times) The last time she came home, I think she might of known. I want to say something but I dont want to lose her

October 16, 2014

You and her sister are both equally as bad as each other. She probably has a feeling herself, but refuses to believe it. Tell her, because no one deserves such betrayal

MP- thank you hun. But how do you distinguish between infatuation and love. Don't get me wrong I did used to talk to guys a lot and go out on dates and I had a boyfriend briefly but I stopped because I thought there was no point because I'd never meet anyone like him

October 16, 2014

Don't be silly unless you're over 60 with 5 kids, I don't see why you need to give up hope. Love is what I know you'll come across if YOU give it a go.

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