Been with my bf for 2 months. When is it okay to start posting our photos on social media?
When you're ready for people to know your business.
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Hi oloni I told this guy I'm dating that am a virgin so he could take me more seriously. I've really slept with 6 guys. What should I do? I like him
Being a virgin doesn't necessarily mean a guy will take you 'seriously'. You didn't have to say anything about your sexuality, however I do think you should tell him you're not, you can keep your number to yourself as you don't need to disclose that. & for those who have been in this exact scenario or similar get my new book #TheNumberBetweenHerLegs it talks on why you should EMBRACE your sexuality! simplyoloni.com
Oloni is height majorly important when it comes to dating
To some it is, others it isn't. However when you like someone things can change.
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Omgggg I didn't know u had ask fm!! What would you say is the most important thing a girl should remember when it comes to giving their virginity away?
You only lose it once. So don't rush.
Oloni, heyyyyy! I want to explore sexuality and all, I'm 19 and I'm a virgin. Im constantly being told that sex isn't that special and magical and that it doesn't happen like how you would want it to.. How much is this true?? Thanks xxxx
Everyone has their own experience & opinion of sex. The whole point of exploring your sexuality is to have your own. One thing I will say is, ignore the hype that's shown on TV.
Part 2... How can I tell when this is all a guy wants from me? And how could I possibly avoid it? I'm 18 and I'm a virgin and I plan on keeping it that way until a find a guy that genuinely likes me for me! Thanks in advance Oloni! Sending lots of love and support your way xo
Hey! It's a common thing a lot of women face. I think you should take your time when getting to know any guy you talk to. You'll know the difference from when a guy genuinely likes you & past the first few weeks of talking, to someone who is only interested in the physical.
Part 1.. Hey Oloni, Men only ever approach me with sexual intentions... They manage to hide it in the beginning and make me feel like it's more than that, then I later find out it was all because I have "big boobs, a pretty face & a nice ass" (or so they say).
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I have a guy who i really like,possibly love infact.But i feel my love for him is based on the fact he was my first and only,the problem is he takes serious advantage of me.Wants me to cook for him,clean him up,even spend on him.I want to move on but it soo hard to or should i stay
Your last question was 'should i stay' - my answer would be no, if he's truly like all the things you described. Yes, he was your first, but wouldn't you want to give your second a chance?
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Un break my heart - Toni Braxton
Been in love with someone for a long time but we've drifted apart. But I think loving him has made it hard for me to move on. How do I let go?
Love isn't something that goes over night even if you declare you're moving on. Understand why you drifted apart & why you need to let go. You will love again and it won't be the same. Remember that.
Hey Oloni, I'm 19 and still a virgin. I talk to guys and when it starts moving in a serious direction I'm always made to feel that being a virgin at my age is a "weird" and odd thing. What advice could you give me to make me stay strong. Thanks in advance xx
Don't allow anyone to make you feel 'weird' about your sexuality. It belongs to you & you alone. Everyone moves at their own pace & believe me a 19 year old virgin is not unheard of, sex is just thrown in our face so often that a virgin in general becomes more of a surprise. Do you understand? (Hopefully you do) take pride of your virginity and you'll be fine!x
I always feel like I'm in a cycle with the same guys. They will be all sweet with me but then suddenly everything then comes to be about sex. What should I do?
Start meeting different guys, it seems like you probably talk to guys who are somewhat similar in things they want. Don't get me wrong a lot of men look forward to sex, but guys who also want more exist too.
Me and this guy had a thing but straight away it was more about sex than anything then he started a thing with another girl and didnt even explain to me why he cut me off and embarassed me like that and now he is messeging me and he wants to meet up and chill..Is he just playing with me for sex?
Yes he is. And quite possibly because the other girl might be bored with him. Don't meet up with him, if he hurt you.
I'm seeing this guy, we talk everyday. We've made our feelings clear however he wants to take things slow and build an eventual relationship on friendship first, but at the same time he wants to go on holiday together. I just can't take him seriously and don't know where I stand with him
He's contradicting himself. You don't go on holiday with people you're taking it slowly with. Talk to him & again..also if you are sleeping with him, stop.
If I'm a guy who likes giving head...like to the point I can do it and not have sex is something wrong with me ?
Nope.
My boyfriend wants to try anal, my friends keep telling me anal with my boyfriend is disgusting and if he loved me he would ask ,what do you think? Would you try it? I just want to keep things fresh and keep him interested.
What your friends think about your sexual experience is none of your business, that's their opinion. Some guys do enjoy anal some don't, it's all up to you and what makes you feel comfortable.
What should I do?
It's up to you, continue with who ever you feel you see more of a future with.
I'm talking to two guys. One is an amazing person and has the warmest heart of anyone I have ever been intimately involved, but he is from a very different cultural background. I am also talking to another guy who is also great and from the same ethnic background as me and is absolutely gorgeous.
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I like this guy and we talk all the time but he's told me he's got a friend with benefits and that's all he wants as he's not looking for anything serious, what do I do? I really like him
You can't do anything. He's explained he's only interested in sex & unless you are too, let it go!
I like this guy and we've been talking a lot but lately he's been acting in a weird way that reminds me of my ex and why we broke up. Should I leave it alone? I don't want to go through the same thing twice
Pay attention to red flags! If he's doing things that you don't like why continue to pursue?
should i confront my boyfriend about watching porn? i've asked him before about it and he denied watching it but now i've found proof....
You don't need to confront him about it, it's a very natural thing to do. There's nothing to discuss, let it go.
Do you think men DO fall for/consider dating girls who aren't as 'attractive' as the norm portrayed in the media, etc...
Lol of course.
do you believe a girls past/body count should be forgotten say if she likes a boy. I personally would lose all attraction to a girl if I found she had a dodgy past...simply because I don't want 'used goods' or to 'have something everyone else has had' or do you think it doesn't matter?
What could be 'dodgy' to you could be nothing to someone else. Why does what she did before she knew of your existence matter? Anyway, I answer these questions properly in my book simplyoloni.com :-)
I'm stuck between an ex that actually loves and cares about me but is not good in bed & a guy who I have amazing chemistry and sex with, who do I choose? I'm not with any of them but I do like them, who do I choose?
Only you can decide that, bad sex is a deal breaker for a lot of people but it shouldn't be the main focus. Figure out why he be came an ex & why you have such great chemistry with the other guy.
There's a guy I've been seeing for about 7 months and we've got great chemistry but I feel like we don't know eachother properly, I try to get to know him but all he wants to do is have sex. Does this guy actually like me or am I just over thinking?
Try talking to him about it, his answer will allow you to know where you stand with him. However, if all you're doing is having sex there's a big chance that's all it could be.
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