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Okay so I've had a thing with this guy for about a month now and I'm starting to catch sly feelings. I recently found out that we're really distantly related- like cousins 4th/5th removed and through marriage- we haven't had sex but shall I tell him? Just call it off or simply ignore it?

Have a conversation with him & let him know what you found out. I wouldn't suggest you keep that to yourself as it's just unfair & will eventually play on your mind.

How long do you have to wait before you get sexually intimate with a guy you've been dating?

It all depends on you & how comfortable you are. Some wait till they feel they know the person others when theyre typically horny.

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I've read the book lol .. Do you know what page it's on by any chance (boyfriend borrowing money) ... Also your book is an amazing read

Thank you & question 50!

My boyfriend keeps borrowing money off of me. I know I shouldn't be giving it too him but I don't want too see him struggling. But now its becoming too often /:. I know your meant too support your partner but now it's like I'm becoming his bank

Hey dear i answer this exact question in my new ebook http://goo.gl/OKRgCT

I'm currently in love with a close friend of mine. We've been sleeping together for 3 years - no commitment. We have the best sex but my feelings run so deep. He's my best friend but I'm in love with him. When we're having sex, he whispers these things that confuse me. I want him. What do I do?

There's a few pages about this in my new book. 100 Questions http://t.co/b5Ui0gwsL7

What made you choose to follow this career path? I think it's great btw.

I honestly never chose it, it was an accident. Fate perhaps? But i'm thankful.

This is going too sound very shallow but it's the truth. I date men that's not the best looking so I can feel better like it makes me feel like they're lucky too have me they call it a "trophy" is that a bad thing that I do that ? In all fairness I do end up falling for them.

It seems like an insecurity. Don't ever feel that just because you're more attractive than a guy he can't wake up tomorrow & treat you like the runner up prize.
It's good you can identify you're own shallowness just remember what I mentioned before.

18 years old and ive never had a bf. And it's always the weirdos that approach me. Is that even normal?

Weirdos approach everyone! Theres a couple of pages in my new book about this http://goo.gl/OKRgCT

2.. cos it's not that deep and I don't wanna seem eager? I like him I think he kinda like me but I feel like I may say some things that makes him feel like there's no point trying with me? convos are dragged out and if he really wanted to talk he would right. but same thing with me ? pls help, tankx

All of this seems so confusing & it's either you try or you don't instead of all the 'what if's'.

me and this guy lived close and we hardly ever saw each other but we texted. when he was moving away is when we met each other quite often and got along really well. now his moved and haven't seen each other since. his told me a couple times to go to his house but I don't want 2 treck 2 buses cos..

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I know every girl would like someone who is utterly obsessed with them. But for me no ones ever utterly obsessed with me after a while they just drift away

Then you keep trying & putting yourself out there. I'm a firm believer in thinking there's someone for everyone, so keep searching for that someone.
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I'm not really good at this dating thing. I'm dating 2 guys at the moment, both give me attention etc, however sometimes they can be off and on meaning they won't talk for 2 days and it effects to the point that I can't even do my work.. How do I learn not to take it to hurt too much?

You focus on yourself & remember that your emotions do not rely on the attention you do/don't get.
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This guy in talking to really took nearly 24 hours to reply to me. He gives slow replies ALLLLLL THE TIME but says it's because he's forgetful. Kmt ahld I just leave him/it or reply to his text. Kinda annoyed now

It's up to you, but if it's frequent, I wouldn't bother.

Hi! When my bf & I were not together, I met another man who I grew really attached to. I cared for him and wanted to help him but I didn't want him as a partner. He couldn't understand this so I had to cut ties but I want to know what you think this means?

It means you weren't ready for that level commitment again.

3- he told me over text that he has no feelings, but when I saw him he said his not feeling himself at all and it was said out of anger. His not the same and I can see his really unhappy. How can I make him see I'm here for him and help him get back to how he was. I honestly love him. His my first

Hey dear, all you can do is be supportive. Show him that you're ready to help whatever it is he's going through. I understand you really like him, but don't forget that him being your first doesn't change the reality of your situation also.
Remember too only he can honestly help himself.

2- I did trust him, I just never wanted to loose him, he told me that his never going anywhere and how he wants me to marry him and be the mother of his kids. In December, things went downhill and he told me that his going through a rough stage. I've seen him twice since then...

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1- Hello Oloni, I met this boy in November and we instantly started to like eachother. He even told his mother that he thinks his in love with me, I then met his mother and his brothers. Because his good looking and gets a lot of female attention, he feels that I get insecure and don't trust him..

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What are the best techniques in getting over someone?

I answer this in my new book go on simplyoloni.com to get it!

I'm dating a older guy. We really do like each other but sometimes I think because of the age gap we don't have much too talk about, we speak 3xs a day (mostly on the phone, awkward silences) I don't want too break up with him cus of that. Any tips on what too talk about on the phone

Speaking 3 times a day? You both need to chill. No wonder why you're running out of things to say. Once is fine! Don't burn out what you have with awkwardness.
As for conversations, keep it general. 'How was your day?'.. 'Did you hear about xyz on the news' 'What are your thoughts?'.. My cringey fav? 'Tell me a fun fact about yourself?'.. A conversation always leads off from there. And it always works.You'll be fine if you reduce the number of times you speak in a DAY.

I've tried the no contact rule with my ex and previously it has worked but recently I've been coming back and leaving him when he shows me why he's not good for me. A big part of me still wants him to be in my life although he's so disrespectful. What should I do?

You have to keep trying & trying. Remember not to settle, which is what you're doing each time you return. You're also wasting time and making it harder for yourself.
Try the NC rule again!

Hiya I just brought and downloaded you e book but I'm not able too open it. Can you help please

Email me x

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