My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years. Recently he was unfaithful I've chosen to forgive him. He said all the right things but now I'm starting to question our relationship I feel likes he's not trying hard enough to earn my trust back. My guy is telling me to let go but I can't.

March 07, 2015

Then you leave, if he's not trying, why should you? Cheating on your partner is not something you forgive instantly OR forget. He might even do it again since it seems like he's getting comfortable.

Im emotionally attached to this guy n I know he's no good what do I do, I don't wanna leave cause I feel he needs me and I don't like leaving people hanging

March 03, 2015

Well you have to pick, it's either him or you. Who do you love more?

Are your talks 1 on 1 or is it like a radio show am new just come across your twitter

March 03, 2015

One on one!

-2: We always express how much we like each other and the feelings are apparently mutual. He complains a lot that I don't make the effort to come see him, but I think I'm holding back because I'm scared of his intentions.

March 03, 2015

You won't know till you date him & give it a chance.

-1: Hi, so I've been speaking to this guy on & off for a few years but we first met when I was around 14-15 so I felt a little too young to go and actually meet him. Anyway so we have a nice friendship, a lot of banter & sometimes sexual, we even argue a bit.

March 03, 2015

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I'm a broke student but the guy I'm dating works and makes a good salary - completely different situations. I've never paid for any of our dates and he's never asked me to, but I feel slightly guilty at times. We've never discussed payment etc. but even if I offer I just can't afford the places he t

March 03, 2015

Try cooking a nice meal since you've been out. It's affordable & you're showing your gratitude. Also explain your circumstances, I'm sure he'll understand :-)

Im 99.9% sure my boyfriend is lying about his age. I should care but I don't because I've already fallen for him. But it just makes me question what else he's lied about. I do want too confront him on it so I can hear him say it, but the way I found out I was doing some deep invagating and he's gonn

March 03, 2015

Well wasn't the point of digging to get an answer? Now you have one, it's up to you to decide what you're going to do with that information. You're right, he may have lied to you about other things especially if he did with his age.

As a guy, this might be extreme but is it right that I am extremely insecure of the fact that I might not be able to satisfy a girl sexually so as such get a stinging feeling when say we're done with our fling and I'm concerned that she might mention me being shite to the next guy

March 03, 2015

Girls do not tell their next sexual partner how good or bad their last sexual partner was. Either way we all worry about how we are in bed, it's perfectly normal.

I was so shocked at the way he changed because I met the family and everything but now when I think of what he did too me & the way he cut me off for no reason, I must have been the side chick. And seeing him with his new girl made me burst into tears. How can I get over him? (Part 2 end of story)

March 03, 2015

Get off his social media pages & block him. That is hurtful, but be happy you got out of a situation that never served a purpose. You will find better, just give yourself the time to move on.

Hey, me&my ex officially ended about 4 weeks ago, this was because he changed and became this disrespectful guy and so heartless. He was the first Guy I loved but he never showed me off like on insta etc. I saw his insta today and his profile pic is him and his new gf. Part 1

March 03, 2015

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We're in a long distance relationship so obviously communication is even more important. I'm someone who likes having attention from their partner so I'm finding this weird. I'm not sure what to do next

March 03, 2015

Sure i answered this yday

Hi Oloni my boyfriend is black and so am I. However I'm the first black girl he has dated he has a thing for blondes and it makes me soo self concious knowing he likes white girls. Sometimes I feel he is just with me because he feels he needs to be with a black girl now, but wants a white girl

March 03, 2015

Or maybe he's with you because he likes you? Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing.

I've been speaking to this guy for a few weeks now, we've spoke everyday all day, we've seen each other everything's fine. He's 22 and has never been in situation that he would call a relationship! I'm scared that I might be wasting my time and it will end up being like all his past situations, he's

March 03, 2015

Speak to him about & tell him what you don't want. Communicate.

There's this guy I really think I'm emtionally attached to him sometimes I think I'm in love with him. He what I want in a guy emtionally but everything else is so wrong . I want to stop feeling this way cos I know 100% he's not right for me

March 03, 2015

Cut all ties with him to allow yourself to stop falling. Do it as soon as possible before your feelings get deeper.

I have a yeast infection but don't wanna tell my partner till it's sorted. Don't know what to say when it comes to not wanting to have sex? I'm embarrassed especially since it's my first time that I've ever had this infection

March 03, 2015

Hey love just be straight & tell him. Yeast infections are nothing to be ashamed of. Educate him on it to make it more comfortable. 2/3 women will get it in their life time, so it's fine & can come from anything such as contraceptives or illnesses it's NOT an STI don't shun the truth because of your health.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple months now and things are going well but I've noticed that he doesn't like talking on the phone with me anymore. When I asked he said he's always been like that which I definitely didn't notice. I'm scared he's losing interest (cont)

March 03, 2015

If you're LD & he can't handle being on the phone, I'd be slightly worried as skype/facetime/calling in general are the BEST forms of communication for any relationship despite distance. Talk to him about your concerns & see what he says.

Guy I used to date disappears for weeks!!!!!! Started to move on and he pops up demanding I meet up with him. I respectfully declined. Did I do the right thing?

March 03, 2015

Yes! He's very cheeky.

... Feed the needs of the body but my mind doesn't need it (does that make any sense)

March 03, 2015

Yeah I understand, and that could be due to what you mentioned earlier. Have you ever considered seeing a councillor?

I get worried when people talk about how intimate sex and kissing is because I find neither of them special or intimate no matter how hard I try. My view of sex was destroyed years ago but even when I try to look at it positively and as something special, I can't. It's like I use it to...

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I've been talking to this guy, first in the dm's then it slowly went to whatsapp, he's always so lovely to me and respectful of me and compliments me and I really like him. But for some reason its moving slowly.. should I be straightforward and tell him what I want & how I feel?

March 03, 2015

Let it move slowly, just enjoy this moment. I'm sure he knows there's something there don't spell it out just yet. Wait :-)

I've been with my boyfriend for three months now. But I'm not attracted to him at all, I wasn't really attracted to him to begin with but personality wise he's perfect. Spoils me & all that but physically doesn't do anything :( don't know what to do...

March 03, 2015

Leave him, if you dont find him aesthetically pleasing then you don't. Personality & a GREAT heart changes how some view people, others it doesn't and that's fine.

Part 2: He is also very boring and vanilla in bed, I like to be adventurous n he thinks the stuff I like is weird. What do I do? I think I need a bit more than basic repeated conversation and unfulfilling sex but am I making a bad decision by letting someone that would care for me go because of that

March 03, 2015

Nope! People care for dogs doesn't mean theyre going to walk down an aisle with one. You can find a guy who ticks more boxes instead of settling for the 'okay' guy.

Part 1: Hey Oloni, I like this guy, he is sweet, caring, considerate, just a nice guy in general but he's so boring!!! the convos are mediocre, we get on well but I don't feel like he gets me as a person, I don't think we click and I defintely have better connections with other guys I know

March 03, 2015

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... I don't want him to be with anyone else and I don't want him to be with anyone else, he's been in my life for too long. I don't know what to do at this rate, I'm even thinking of relocating after uni, I'm in love with him and I can't even show it. HELP!!!!

March 03, 2015

Which is it & be honest. Are you happy for him or not? Do YOU want him or not? Regardless he is with someone so youre going to have to cut all ties with him. It's as you said, you do not want to become a relationship ruiner so keep your distance.

Allow yourself to get over someone who is over you & with somebody else.

I don't want to be a relationship wrecker cos that's really not me. I still like him and I don't want to be with anyone else besides him, we've kinda spoken about it, I'm in uni and my education comes first but I want him, even though I was the one who callled off our relationship....

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