I have repeatedly asked my boyfriend to stop talking to a specific girl because she was his first gf and their mutual friends always said that they should get back together and try again. This obviously made me uncomfortable and we have argued about this a couple of times but the last time he assure

March 29, 2015

This isn't something to argue most women in a relationship do not want their partner talking to an ex. Especially if it's at a stage that makes you uncomfortable. If he's not listening he's being insensitive and you might need to think deeply about whether it's worth all the stress.

I just bought your new ebook via paypal. When do I get it?

March 29, 2015

It get's emailed to you! Thank you so much. Please do check your junk mail too x

...but I still do't see myself marrying her, and I've told her. I don't mind us being together, especially as I've been alone for quite sometime. But I'm uneasy about dating her again when I know it wont lead to marriage. Do I get back with her, or tell her we should remain as FwB?

March 29, 2015

I love your honesty & I think you need to let her hear it. You don't want her to waste her time on something if you know what it will not lead to. She'll be hurt & resent you. Being FWB's doesnt seem practical. Do the both of you think you're the only people in the world left to date?? Have sex with other people, date other people.

I have this ex. We dated for 5 mths. We had great sex, but I couldnt see myself marrying her for other reasons. Also she said that I was not "polished" enough for her. Since we broke up, we've come together a few times, and are still very good friends. Now she wants us back together....

March 29, 2015

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I'm at uni and I've been seeing/talking to a guy for roughly 5 months. Because we're in first year, I know he doesn't want to settle down and wants to carry on chattin to others, but I've caught feelings :( I know I'll become jealous and start nagging him soon because of this. Should I cut him off?

March 29, 2015

Cutting him off seems wise to me!

My ex says he wants me back and we should have a clean slate but he's done so much to me that I don't know if I can get over it & for the first time, I feel like I wanna just move on even though I still love him. What should I do?

March 28, 2015

Move on! A clean slate should have started before you broke up. I'm guessing you're young so give yourself a chance to experience a REAL new slate with a NEW person.

My ex says he doesn't love me but misses me & wants to get back together. What does this really mean?

March 28, 2015

He's an idiot. Ignore him.

Went out with this guy for 5 years we've been broken up for about 6 months haven't spoken completely for around 3 he's moved on lol but i still care cnt get my head around it all nd dno if i should just go with 'go get what i want' or just 'let it be and let life take control' ?

March 28, 2015

Let it be and let life take control. Give yourself a chance to date new people. If you were together for 5 years and haven't spoken in 3 months theres no point worrying about the past.

Thoughts on long distance relationships?

March 28, 2015

Depends on the relationship itself

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I'm a woman and 25 next month and i've never been in a serious relationship(been celibate for the past 3 years), i'm really shy and find social situations too overwhelming, i tried online dating off and on for a few years but found it too stressful..a part of me wants to give up and accept it prob

March 28, 2015

Hey dear, I know it seem tough but to find something you have to look for it. Even if it means trying over & over or harder & harder. Try online dating again and do not STOP. You can't expect results if you're not committed to it.

Ive seen you answer irrelevant questions asking for your zodiac sign but I asked you a question the other day asking for advice cause I'm going through a really bad time and you didn't reply to it. Thanks.

March 28, 2015

I get 50 questions a day & sometimes I enjoy answering the odd irrelevant things. If it's that important you're more than welcome to email it to me :-)

I really like this guy and it's obvious he knows I like him. He's always busy with work and he finishes late so it's hard to meet up with him. I think he's too good for me maybe cause he's much older

March 28, 2015

Be patient way for him to make the move. I think he might.

I'm talking to this guy & all he wants is sex. I'm not ready to loose my virginity but I really do like him.

March 28, 2015

Your like for him can eventually fade don't feel pressured into something you're not ready for.

I'm in a relationship with someone but he never has time for me every weekend he is busy doing something and when I talk to him about it he says I don't understand Him and why he is so busy. Like I haven't seen him in 2 weeks and in the week I hardly get to speak to him because we both work.

March 28, 2015

Then move on and meet someone who can give you what you want.

Hi Oloni. You seem like you don't judge all your readers. I've had a crush on my stepdad for a few years. My mum is quite young and he's younger than her. There's a 10 gap between us. I can't stop fantasising about him & find myself watching porn with similar scenarios. How do I get over him?

March 28, 2015

The way you get over any crush that could end up badly. You try meet someone else that's GOOD & right for YOU to crush on without any sense of guilt.

...later. I believe the communication got less frequent after we was intimate. Eventually I got fed up and stopped speaking to him. We still kept contact but I don't know where it's going or what I should do?

March 28, 2015

It's not going anywhere so do not force or think too hard about it. Sadly a lot of guys do become opposites of what they appeared to be once they become intimate with a woman, but sometimes it's because there really isn't anything else keeping them. We have this false idea that because we sleep with a man things can't change even if we 'wait'. Don't worry too much and get yourself out there and meet someone NEW!

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I was seeing a guy and he made me feel like a princess but after a while the communication stopped being as frequent. Both our circumstances changed, i.e we became more busy with work and uni etc but we'd go days even weeks without even speaking. I made the effort but got replies literally 12hrs...

March 28, 2015

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I recently found out the guy I was seeing for 6 months is also seeing multiple other girls, we've already been intimate with each other and even though I've tried to remove myself from the situation and move on/forget him, it's proven to be very difficult and I still find myself texting him. Help me

March 28, 2015

Delete and block his number if you want to be done. Remember the two of you were not exclusive however, so never expect loyalty when you're seeing/dating anyone.

Thanks for responding. I do love him more than I love anything. But this situation is so fucked up. He got sent down before he could graduate so he's so far behind everyone. He's such a nice person but I don't want to resent him when we're struggling & I'm scared to be the sole earner. Thanks again.

March 28, 2015

No problem! Remember being nice is great. But you dont stay with someone based on a single attribute many have.

im having sex with my sister bf it happened once but he keeps coming back and i cant resist. ive stopped myself now but do i tell my sister to leave him becuase hes no good or what do i do?

March 28, 2015

Youre both no good. The only thing you need to confess is what you've been up to with her boyfriend. If he's done this with you he clearly has no morals and would is probably cheating on her with other women.

i know this is about relationships but i have a question. i have a few friends and on my birthday my so called 'best friend' didnt even text me to say happy birthday do you think im over reacting by not speaking to her?

March 28, 2015

Not over reacting, she's your best friend so I can see why you wouldnt want to talk to her. However I think you should address the issue & ask why she behaved like that

i have such few friends everyone that comes into my life doesnt value me until i stop talking to them. why does it have to be like this

March 28, 2015

Well, if this always happens to you. You need to realise, what it is you're doing wrong. Are you giving? Are you selfish? Are creating proper bonds? Only you know the answer to this.

hi, i reallly love reading your ask.fm

March 28, 2015

Then you'll really LOVE my new book! Thank you xx

I've been having sex with my uni seminar leader since December. He's White and I'm black. I was scared he didn't want to go public because of my colour but I recently found out he is married. What do i do?

March 28, 2015

You need to leave that situation alone. At least you know the truth, so stop before your emotions get involved. Nothing good will come out of this scenario.

Please answer.... My boyfriend went to prison a few years ago. I haven't intetionallu waited but it's just happened that way. He's coming out soon and I'm starting to get anxious about how we'll survive & I dont have faith that he can provide. Help!

March 28, 2015

Then do what's best for you! You don't have to stay in the relationship if you feel this way. There's nothing wrong with the decision you're clearly thinking about.

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