Everyone says 'you'll get over him', but it's hard. I'm unemployed and have very few friends - who are all employed, so there's nothing to do really. I'm optimistic about life, but sometimes it all just feels shit and I really just want to talk to him, cos he's good at being there.

January 16, 2015

Being unemployed & having few friends doesn't mean you'll die without him. Keep yourself busy, learn something NEW, do something NEW. You WILL get over him, if you want and choose to.

Maybe you're right but I'm not sure I know how to heal this time. After my first breakup I was depressed for two years maybe even more. I never really got over it even though he recently apologised to me. I don't think I would know how to embark on a new relationship

January 16, 2015

A new relationship shouldn't be on your mind. You have a lot of healing to do!! If needed I think you should seek professional help, as it's clear this wasn't any ordinary break up.

Yeah fair enough,do you think I should eventually delete him on snap,because there's not point him being the 1st to watch if he is not interested

January 16, 2015

Sure.

So I really like this guy, but I KNOW it's not gonna work out. He's just not 'ready', and I'm not ready to wait around for his commitment timing, but I can't get over him. I've given him space and luckily for me, he's not in the country. But still I don't know what to do.

January 16, 2015

You'll get over him. I promise, keep yourself busy!

When during the "getting to know each other" process should you let a guy know your a virgin?

January 16, 2015

It's entirely up to you. I do think the 'getting to know' each other stage is way too soon however.

During a month we just whatsapp each other and etc but is always turns out that after about a month or two the connection dies down

January 16, 2015

Well texting is a lazy method of communicating I advise that NEXT time you get with someone who picks up the phone x

I just did and he ingnored me,it's not the 1st time he has done it,however he is always one of the 1st ones to watch my snapchats

January 16, 2015

Lol, do you think he's interested?? You don't need me for this one.

I don't feel like I can trust guys now after that because all they do is hurt me. It's emotionally and mentally draining and I couldn't take another guy treating me like shit. I find it really difficult to open up to guys, I don't think I've ever really done it fully *sigh

January 16, 2015

A guy probably isn't what you need right now. You're clearly extremely hurt. Take some time out to worry about repairing yourself.

Every time i and a guy speak it never lasts more then a month..do you know what the possible reasons could be

January 16, 2015

What are you doing in that month??

I've been talking to this boy for a while and we planned to meet up on Friday (today) but he did not say anything what should I do?

January 16, 2015

Ask him what happened.

The guy I talk to wants focus on school before getting in a serious relationship but we're kinda dating but it isn't official but he wants things to remain the same. What should I do?

January 16, 2015

This sounds like an unofficial official relationship. And the whole 'focus on school' palava sounds like rubbish. He's dictating how committed he wants to be with you.

A guy I recently connected with let me go through his phone and I saw some message from like 3 weeks prior to when we starting talking to each other heavy. It's was just a bunch of different girls and those types of msgs. Should I be worried since he let me see them?

January 16, 2015

Not really he has nothing to hide & you're not exclusive.

I have lead quite a few guys on but it never went anywhere. I just knew they liked me so I played with that but I never did anything with them we just became really good friends and they would try for a kiss or more Ahh what should I do cause they all think I've slept with so many guys

January 16, 2015

It's so ridiculous when guys do this. Many women get slut shamed due to rumours. The truth is, you can't do anything about the lies people spread. What you can do is honestly ignore it. These days women can been be called a slut just for kissing a guy. Pathetic.

So right now Im being slut shamed at my uni but I've only slept with one guy I who I was in a relationship with that cheated on me. Now he's going around saying I'm a slut and others guys are telling people I've slept with them which isn't true. I feel slightly responsible because

January 16, 2015

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That I'm better than the last. I feel we have a great connection but he's scared

January 16, 2015

Leave it.

Been talking to the same guy for about 3 1/2 years now. Didn't speak for about 1 1/2 and during that time he got into a serious relationship after they broke we connected again and now I feel like he doesn't want to be official with me because of the past relationship. How do I prove to him that Im.

January 16, 2015

Don't prove anything, he's known you for quite a while. If it was meant to be you'd be dating, find someone you don't have to wait for.

Stop anything more than friendship. I cant help but want to pretend or 'play Church' because of this. Also his Church encourage them to find their 'otherhalf' young. I would hate to be Sitting at his wedding at a gueSt in the next year :/

January 16, 2015

Don't pretend to be what you're not! Be honest and let him know how you feel about the situation. Faith & religion isn't something I believe you should force.

The thing is he is really into Church and God and recently (for many reasons) I havent really seen eye to eye with Christianity. The truth is its clear we like each other but I cant help but feel the less 'Christian' i become the more we will drift. He has such strong convictions i know this will

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Hi Oloni, I have a guy friend who has been close for agessss. We grew up together but only started talking again about 2years ago. Even though Im at Uni and he is still in Ldn we talk 24/7....until recently

January 16, 2015

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I just can't seem to make guys stay in my life. It's like they've already had this perspection of who I am abd judge me based on that. Apparently I'm prestige so they think I'll be a bitch/mean girl but then I always turn out to be a nice girl? Help

January 15, 2015

Meet new people! I'm sure that's not every guys first instinct.

Hi Oloni I'm a single girl and have been for years now - it's not like I haven't seen people during this time but then they find silly reasons not to be with me anymore. What advice can you give someone like me I can't seem to hold a man.

January 15, 2015

You need to give some a reason to want to be with you. What do you offer? What's different about you?

The truth is you just need to carry on dating. You'll find someone who won't give you silly reasons.

Do you think there are situations where you can take your partner back after they've cheated? Or should it always end in a breakup?

January 13, 2015

Cheating doesn't always equal the end of a relationship. However, both parties have to be more than will to fight for the relationship.

Im so super shy to talk to guys,is there anything i can do to help me with it,its so hard i get so nervous

January 13, 2015

Come to my mingling soiree!!

How can you attract a good guy

January 13, 2015

Be a good woman.

Before I was with my boyfriend , i had a huge crush on him and i knew he loved football so i pretended to be interested in football so we could talk (don't judge me), now were together n he talks about football ALL the time ND its driving me crazy , I've never liked football ND how do i tell him tha

January 12, 2015

Hahaha my dear never pretend to be something you're not to impress a guy. Let him know the truth I'm sure he'll be flattered, but will calm down with the footie talk.

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