Boyfriend of 7 years ? From time you've been together for over 5 years and he hasn't asked for your hand in marriage ,!dont you think that's a bit suspicious ?
Not everyones wish is to get married.
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Hey oloni, so basically I'm interested in this gurl, I wanna get to know her more, we have great conversations but that's all its been for a minute now(2/3 months). What should I do to see if she's on progressing without spitting it out? Or am I just being impatient?
Ask what her schedule is like & ask her out! She's probably waiting on you to do so. Talking is great but spending time together will allow you to know how you really feel.
i met this guy a little over a month ago but i've only seen him once since then. we was supposed to meet up like last week but he cancelled. we do text like everyday tho. should i let him go or continue to talk to him i slyly feel like he just isnt serious?
If you feel like he isn't serious he probably isn't.
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Just find out my bf of 7 years slept with my step mum. I really dont know what to do? Im hurt, confused i still cnt take it in
That is very hurtful, you need to cut both people off for a while and give yourself some time to let out all your emotions. Be with family or friends your the closest to till you're ready to speak to you bf about it.
broke up of my ex of two years because i kept on getting hurt but it's very hard to stay away. I keep on getting my hopes up thinking he'll change but somethings tells me he won't. What can I do?
Cut the cycle and write down the reasons you know he's no good. Write down why you deserve more! Look over it till you believe it. People do not change over night, and if you've been hurt once he has no reason to treat you better if you're there displaying how okay you are with it.
everyone says find yourself before you get with another man. what things would you say i can do in order to find myself
You can find yourself by challenging yourself and LEARNING about yourself.
are you having another mingling soiree?
Would you like me to?
I broke up with my boyfriend recently and now i've moved on thinking that i was over him and its clear that I'm not because when i see him it has me felling some type of way :( but i really like this new guy I've been talking to what should i do?
Get to know the new guy Just because you declare your feelings are no more for someone does not make it gospel
found out my boyfriend was texting another girl (inappropriately) a month ago. I decided to forgive him but I still feel like I can't trust him I'm trying so hard. When he goes out I have a really bad feeling. I don't know whether this is a part of our journey or the end. I hate feeling like this.
It could be either you're completely right, but only YOU know. I think you should speak to him and let him know how you're feeling about trusting him again. Voice the difficulties your having and remember time will tell.
what are your views on long distance relationships? do you think they can work? (if your partner live in a different country), I'm slightly scared to be completely honest
I think LDR can work depending on how long you were together before and how long you'll be a part. To make it work both of you have to be more than willing to go that extra mile in creating time to speak e-mail, text and CALL.
Hi Oloni, is it too late to make an application for you to be my relationship coach??
Sadly it is, but I will have more details for the next opp soon.
Is it bad to have sex with your boyfriend all the time, we do hang out and talk but in African culture there is so much stigma when it come to sex and my boyfriend and i are very sexually active.. what are your thoughts
I don't think it's a bad thing if two people who are in a relationship enjoy having a lot of sex. There are many cultures that are similar, doesn't mean it isn't happening.As long you're both safe and having consensual sex there really isn't an issue.
.. Is it me just being needy or is this genuinely not normal for people in a relationship to not be able to hold a convo when they're not together because when we do text its awkward lol
Relationships work differently some people can sit on the phone for ages and some for a few minutes in a day. It all depends. I, however will admit that I've always found it strange when partners never pick up the phone and just wait to see each other. Texting in general to me is a lazy way of communication but if you can't do that either I think you might need to put both into practice, try facetiming each other sending cute voicenotes, take lead and allow him to reciprocate.
Isit weird that I don't speak to my boyfriend everyday? Or that we can't hold a text convo. I love him and when we see each other its perfect but for example when he goes back to London he has no urge to text or call me and because I'm used to speaking to bf's all through the day I find it weird..
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My bf was quite upset today. I asked him countless times what was wrong and he just kept on saying "nothing" then he sent me some long para on whatsapp about how I don't care enough to ask him (yet he didnt want to tell me when I did ask) I don't know why he's acting so immature or am I in the wrong
If you asked him and he never replied then he's throwing a very childish tantrum. Give him some time and address it later by explaining what you just told me.
Ive been with my boyfriend for the last 7 and a half months and his introduced me to some of his family and stuff though we go through our ups and downs we do love each other, but the relationship SCARES ME! since he is in his last year of uni and im in my second i feel as though things will change
Then you work hard as a couple to keep things going strong. You give him space so he can focus but also make the most of every time you spend together. Relationships are never easy, but see this as a test.
How does sex work in a long distance relationship?
Phone sex, skype sex, facetime sex, sex text.
Do you give advice to same sex couples too?
Of course :-)
I'm his ex and I asked if we could talk cause I'm trying to have closure. He said he was busy but rn I can tell he's not cause he's on a 2 week break. Do I message him or..?
You can ask again, but if he says he is busy bow out & leave him to it. Closure is not always necessary, learning to move on however is.
I've been told I'm easy to talk to and guys end up liking me easily. But when I say I don't want anything more they get offended. 3 different times a guy has tried cock block my friendships with other guys bc if this. Is it me or is it them? I genuinely don't lead them on bc I'm the same with girls
Be more wary of who you befriend and try to tone down your level of friendship if this is a reoccurring thing. It sucks that someones bitterness would allow them to do this, but take the advice I've given and let me know if you see a difference.
...I just don't want to end up being someones fuck buddy. But I really like him. What should I do?
Leave! And meet someone new.
I had sex with a guy and since he's told me he's not looking for a relationship but he likes me and wants to keep seeing me. Should I pursue this knowing he don't want anything serious although I'm sure he has feelings for me, maybe just see where it goes.. Or just nip it in the bud now?..
Nip it in the bud, it's not going anywhere.
What are your tips to maintain a healthy long term relationship?
Compromise.
We did stuff that day but I haven't heard back from him since. Is it wrong for me to be annoyed by this even though I don't have romantic feelings for him still?
I can see why you'd be annoyed, it takes very little effort to hit someone up and check on them. However if both of you stopped making an effort quite some time ago, being physical would not have changed things. You have no feelings towards him so just move on.
I was kinda seeing this guy a while back, we never stopped talking but we hadn't made effort recently to see each other. Anyways I saw him for the first time in like 2 months over the weekend and I kinda felt differently towards him like maybe I see him more as a friend...
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