If you are a Christian, how come you give non biblical advice to people. For example, if someone asks if they should wait til marriage for sex, as a Christian shouldn't you be steering them in the direction of celibacy rather than encouraging them to have sex when they're ready?

March 12, 2015

I'm not a preacher, I don't have to give out any sort of biblical advice. Being a Christian doesn't mean you're any less of one for thinking or engaging in sexual activities. My job is to provide safe & healthy options. Not reciting quotes many are aware of.

Half of me wants to give him a chance but the other half is very much like nah I don't want to do this, I'm kind of conflicted and not sure what side of me I should listen to more.

March 11, 2015

The side that won't get hurt again. Which is it?

Do you think there's anything wrong with fwb?

March 11, 2015

No

in what circumstance could fwb work?

March 11, 2015

The two are not close friends & never try meeting up unless it's for sex. Also if a woman is sleeping with her sex buddy once in a while opposed to .. Let's say twice a week? It's more likely to work as there no chance of catching any sort of feelings

I've been cheated on several times by my boyfriend. I know it sounds silly but even though he's done me wrong so many times I still love him. We're currently not together but he wants to make it work and so do I. How do we go about this?

March 11, 2015

Are you sure you want to make it work with someone who has continuously taken advantage of your trust? Because that's what you'll have to do to make it work. Trust.. and that is not an easy thing.

Want to loose him. I strongly believe he has started dating. & I dont want to lose him to just anyone. I don't know what to do?! :'(

March 11, 2015

You can't do anything he has clearly moved on. Do the same.

I have a best friend whom I actually love (we can't be together bcos of several reasons) but I've noticed that he's started changing like before we used to talk thru Whatsapp daily (he always used to message me first) but now I'd be lucky to get even a message. I don't know what to do bcos I don't

March 11, 2015

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Very recently (as in two weeks) ago I broke up with my long term boyfriend. I downloaded tinder I don't really know what for I wasn't looking for anything but I matched with some guy and we've been talking for a few days. The convos have been very sexual and he's now asked me to come to his house...

March 11, 2015

It's your first time do not go to his house. Meet in a public space, crazies live on the net!

2) We communicate daily through text, phone calls ect so we do keep in contact even when we're at work but how do you go about finding a balance?

March 11, 2015

You create the balance and take risks. If this is serious you stick it out for a while because you both know this won't be forever. Carry on talking regularly as you do & if you ever get a day off try surprising him. If the relationship is worth it, don't stop. If it lacks faith seek other options.

1) Me and this guy are seeing eachother, and honestly I couldn't wish for a better person to be with and have no issue there but the main issue is time. We both work full-time, he's also studying for a phd which takes up alot of his time. We also live on the opposite sides of London.

March 11, 2015

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In your opinion, could being fwb work?

March 11, 2015

Of course.

For me him seeing someone is no problem, but my issue is that he should have let me know because I had no idea. The way he was moving for months was like we had a problem, he is not mine but a little heads up would of been nice so I don't look like some fool he's actually a real good friend to me :/

March 11, 2015

You're not supposed to be really good friends with someone you're just sleeping with, that's where wires get crossed. Text him and let him no how you feel either way.

Peace and love darling <3 I had a fwb for a few months, but then after I tried celibacy for a little. (I let him know this) now for some many weeks he wasn't talking to me, no calls, no nothing, avoiding me he even stood me up for study related meet up. I found out he's seeing someone (continues...

March 11, 2015

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How do you move on from a 1yr plus situation, with someone I lost my virginity too. I also lost a child in the process. I would say I'm dealing with it well, because of God. But I'm heartbroken, struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts and struggling to sleep daily. Like no matter how early

March 11, 2015

Hey! A lot of women go through this especially when pregnancy is involved. The best way to help you through would be to seek some counselling.

Recently broke up with my long term boyf, things hadn't been good for a while so I though I was calm and small small over it. Threw myself into talking to other people, keeping busy. But I've realised its hurting me more than I thought it would and I can't focus with life atm. What should I do pleas

March 09, 2015

You have to carry on, it's difficult but break ups are NEVER easy. However, you need to trust you can find & be with someone who will fulfil their purpose in your life.

I've met a guy through one of my friends, there's like almost a little group of us and we kinda became a squad. I knew that I liked him as soon as we met so I decided to actually be confident and kind of ask him on a date but then he was like yeah everyone should come like I don't think he realised

March 09, 2015

Are you positive he's single? Ask a mutual friend or him actually. Also make it clear you meant the both of you. He's probably so used to hanging out with your other friends he probably never had a clue.

Do you think the honey moon period stops after a certain time

March 08, 2015

Yeah lol that's why it's called that.,

My boyfriend is ignoring now that we've just had an argument and it's hurting my feelings. What should I do?

March 08, 2015

Leave him, he'll come around address it when you speak. Be patient! It'll be fine x

How do I get my boyfriend back I miss him so much and I want him back as I'm really going through stuff and I need him here please give me advice

March 08, 2015

You can't get him back unless he wants to be back. If you're going through stuff talk to someone else who is close to you.

... So much affection and showed no signs of anything being wrong. I'm really struggling without him. Do I persue a friendship still? We've been in contact since but now it's getting less and less and really upsetting me. How do I let it go? X

March 08, 2015

Let it go by not contacting him anymore. He's probably moved on and you need something that will keep you busy to so you can do the same thing.

My boyfriend recently dumped me after months of talking, building a friendship and connection then him pushing for a relationship. We even went on holiday together but after only two months of actually being together he ended it about 6 weeks ago. Everything was so perfect & he showed me so much

March 08, 2015

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This guy in with right, he claims not to be a social media guy & will get unto me for tweets or RTing a males picture. But now he's following basically all girls to try & "get his followers up" on snapchat & Twitter. Am I overreacting to be annoyed & feel some way? Because if it was me he'd say ....

March 08, 2015

Overreacting yes, but if it bothers you that much present the issue to him.

how can I make my boyfriend me more romantic? he says it's not 'his thing' but i would really like to be treated now and again.

March 08, 2015

That's just how he is & you won't be able to change that. Have a talk with him about it as he'd be catering to some of your needs and the things you enjoy. Which does not sound unreasonable.

Anon Reply to your tweet - Yes forreal if girls cant climax through penetration just say, so he can get that tongue action going. Its nothing to be ashamed of but boys cant accept a bruised ego & live with the fact he couldnt make her climax.

March 08, 2015

Loool exactly.

Hi Oloni, I sent you an email about a situation I'm in, could you answer when you can please :) x

March 08, 2015

Will do xx

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