Majed Jarrar

UOMSA: How to give up bad habits when you are single and desperate for affection and you can't get married rn?

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

Remove the obstacles preventing you from getting married rn.
Starting with: becoming more mature, responsible, and able to control yourself.
If you can't control yourself, you think you can control a relationship?!

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UOMSA: I contacted a sister to see her availability and our first meeting included her father. After the meeting the father said that it was permissible for us to continue to meet without a mahram. The conditions were that we only meet in a public place and do not transgress. Is this lawful and how

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

A) this is a temporary phase. The goal is to see if you are a match or not: Set a maximum number of remaining face to face meetings before you reach a decision for engagement or not (no more than 5).
B) Put a written marriage plan, each of you write it individually, then share it with each other. It can include:
1. What are the 3 qualities you will bring to the marriage? What are the 3 qualities would you like to see in the other?
2. What are your life goals in terms of your own deen, career, travels, family planning, relationship with your own parents, relationship with your in-laws.
3. What are your expectations from your partner with regards to all the above?
4. Keep her father in the loop directly after each meeting.

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UOMSA: Asalamu Aleykum. I want to have a halal approach to marriage and in today's society it is almost taboo for someone to ask for your parent's number before meeting you. How should I go about talking to someone for marriage if I'm worried about displeasing Allah?

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

There are endless halal ways. Here's a story from the Quran, with some beautiful reflections:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HOrZCw6ZL8o

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UOMSA: How do you stop committing the same sin even after repenting?

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

The war is won one battle at a time.

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UOMSA: Is public displays of affection allowed in Islam? If so, to what extent (i.e. holding hands, hugging and etc)

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

1. It's all permissible if you're talking about your mom and sister :)
2. Just because someone has a girlfriend, they shouldn't make a public announcement of it. Be sensitive to all the single brothers and sisters out there who are trying to be good Muslims and are suffering in silence.
3. It is prohibited for a man to have any physical contact with a woman who's not permissible for him (i.e., not directly related by blood, nursing or marriage)

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UOMSA: How do you resist the temptation to date when you are unable to get married?

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

Are you unable to get married? or are you made to think you are unable to get married?

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UOMSA: Assalamu alaikm, I'm interested in a sister who shares the same culture, values and volunteer interests as me. But I'm shy to talk to her about this sensitive subject, and I doubt she has any interest in me. Any advice on what to do ?

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

Answer from br. Nouman Ali Khan (video begins from the exact answer, watch it, THEN watch the whole lecture from the beginning)
https://youtu.be/HOrZCw6ZL8o?t=17m25s

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UOMSA: if you fall into temptation and sin but then sincerely repent and never return, is it forgiven regardless of how bad it is? does a point exist in which it stops being forgivable? what is this point?

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

There is no sin greater than the mercy of Almighty God. He said: Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning repeatedly and greatly]: do not despair of the mercy of God. Indeed, God forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful."
You must understand that, and repeat it to yourself always.
You must also know that while minor sins can be washed away with seeking forgiveness and general repentance, major sins require speciific repentance from each time that major sin was committed. Moreover, if the major sin involved the right of another human (such as backbiting, slander, theft, etc) then God will not forgive a sin until that person's right is returned, or they pardon you.
May the Almighty protect us all.

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UOMSA: http://pastebin.com/bZ0Fqi3i

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

It seems that you are a very honest girl, may the Almighty purify your heart, protect your chastity, and grant you the most blessed marriage, ameen.
1, You should understand that humans have different personalities (try taking the test at www.16personalities.com, you seem to be an E_FP person). There is no one type of a person you must mold yourself into. You should work on utilizing your qualities in a way that is permissible and beneficial, instead of wondering how to suppress them.
2. You know that feeling of self gratitude when flirting with a man and seeing it works on them? That is a lethal weapon which your enemy - the devil - provides ammunition for, and you need to be as cautious from it as playing with fire. The prophet said: "What do you say about a friend whom if you trust and listen to, leads you to doom; and if you disrespect and scold, saves you?" The companions said: 'this is the worst kind of a friend!' The prophet explained: "This, by God, is the example of your own souls." So be extremely cautious and do not listen to these desires of your soul.
3. I know four nice brothers whose advice to women is always like gold. Their names are Abu Hanifa, Malik bin Anas, Muhammad bin Idrees Ashafi'i and Ahmed bin Hanbal. While these four great imams have different scholarly opinions with regards to women's dress code; all of them unanimously agreed that if a woman is causing a great fitnah to men (e.g. because of her beauty), then it is imperative upon her to cover herself fully - including her face and hands. For the Prophet said: "Aside from the Dajjal (i.e. the anti-Christ), there is no greater fitnah on men than women."
May the Almighty protect us all.

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UOMSA: Announcement

Majed Jarrar

October 09, 2016

Yesterday I had to leave the Q&A panel hosted by uOttawa MSA early due to travel arrangements. I do apologize for that. I will post the questions I received there onto here with the prefix UOMSA to the question, and try to answer as many of them as possible within the next few days inshaAllah.
May God Almighty reward everyone who worked on planning and executing this event, the co-panelists and everyone who attended.

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In regards to the UOMSA Q and A yesterday. Referring to the major sin repentence question. Say someone forgets about a major sin they have committed in the past. Will they be forgiven if they forget to repent from something they have forgotten?

October 09, 2016

If someone does not take a serious effort to remember the major sin they had committed, and delay repentance until they forget about it, that postponing and negligence may fall under the category of underestimating sins, which is a major sin itself.
However, for someone who had no access to know about major sins, or what they had committed was a major sin, and learnt way later in life, then I hope the answer is no, and God knows best.

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عاوز اتعلم اللهجة الأمريكية اعمل ايه؟ وتعلم ال phonetics مفيدة؟

October 08, 2016

أعتذر، لستُ مهتما بمجال اللهجات
لكن هناك عشرات اللهجات في أمريكا، فاحذر أن تخلط النيويوركي بالكاليفورني، أو التكساسي بالمسيسيبي

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Oh and,just our of curiosity,which of the 16 personalities do you fall under?

October 08, 2016

I don't fall under a personality, I lead them. 😎
I'm an ANTJ-A: ambivert (alternating or no preference between introvert and extrovert), intuitive, thinking, judging, and assertive.
Needless to say, it is the rarest personality type on the planet, counting for less than 0.5% of people. 😏

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My friends think I'm boring. I'm not too outgoing tbh,always either studying,playing sports,reading a book or walking by the beach.Should I change myself? I mean I'm enjoying my life,but what will happen I get married :D What if my wife finds me boring too :O

October 06, 2016

you're an introvert, it's a personality preference, some psychologists argue it cannot be changed. It's like being born left handed, you can learn to write with your right hand, and even excel in that, but your instinctive preference will always be your left hand.
I suggest you take a personality test from 16personalities.com, and it'll help you have more insight about yourself and also who would be a good match for you (and how rare is it to find them)

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Where can I get a theological deconstruction of what the so-called ISIL is doing?

October 06, 2016

^ is like wanting to know how cancer is treated before entering med school.

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Ustadh what can empower and motivate me into taking my seeking of ilm more seriously? :D

October 04, 2016

Nothing, you're a hopeless case. :)

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هل ضعيف الذاكرة ممكن يكون طالب علم متقدم في عصرنا اليوم؟

October 04, 2016

هذا مرض العصر، نسأل الله العفو والعافية
نعم أرجو ذلك
للأخ @mustafaelmasry جواب طيب على هذا، وأيضا جواب قديم عن كيفية تقوية الذاكرة، فراجعه مشكورا

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ممكن أسماء أو قائمة بالكتب التي ترجمتها والمقالات يا شيخنا لأني مترجم أيضا في عمر 23 عاما لم أدرس الترجمة واريد الاطلاع عليها. بالامكان الرد في رسالة خاصة

إدريس بن نجي

October 04, 2016

أعتذر، لا احتفظ بقائمة ترجماتي، لو ذكرني أحد قديما لفعلت ولكن قدر الله وما شاء فعل.

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السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته مثلا واحد عنده الف متابع على الانستجرام و نزل مقطع جميل هل يكسب على كل مشاهد اجر؟ و اللي يقول "شارك المقطع و كل مشاركة فيها اجر" هل يا شيخ في database عشان الأجور و عدد المتابعات؟

October 04, 2016

وعليكم السلام،
إنما الاعمال بالنيات.

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آمين .. سؤالي حول العمل في مستودع الأمازون أنه يبيع أشياء كثيرة مثل سواركت كما ترى في موقع primenow.amazon.com فلا أدري مدى مسؤوليتي وأنا أجمع الطلبات ..

October 04, 2016

بوركت اخي، وزادك ربي حرصا على تحري الحلال والحرام.

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من حقك ان تشترط عليهم أن لا تحمل ما يحرمه عليك دينك، مثل لحم الخنزير او الخمر او ادوات القمار او التماثيل او الصلبان، ولك أن تتفق مع زملائك في العمل ان يحملوا تلك البضائع عنك وتحمل عنهم بقدرها من الحلال.

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أما إذا كان عملك في نقل البضائع المغلفة فلا حرج عليك، والأصل في حمل المبيعات الحِل، ويغلب على مبيعات امازون الحلال.

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والله تعالى أعلم

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تعبت من الحياه لا اجد فيها ما يفرحنى :(

October 04, 2016

وما الحياة الدنيا إلا متاع الغرور.
إقرأ ما يسلي قلبك مثل "عدة الصابرين" و"رياض الصالحين" و"مدارج السالكين" و"الداء والدواء" وغيرها مما يصلح النفس ويذكرها بالاخرة ويربط على قلبك ويصلك بربك

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How often do you smile?

October 02, 2016

Whenever I see food ☺

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http://ask.fm/MajedJarrar/answers/138872981826 Soo I understand from the last statement that it's not wajib on me to listen to my parents when they tell me to do something that is sunnah mu'akaddah in my mathhab? (Not the same asker)

October 02, 2016

Yes, it is waajib to listen to your parents even if they asked you to do push-ups and be their footrest at the same time.
I was talking about him helping with raising his little sister, given that his parents don't seem to be concerned with educating her about her religion.

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أنا أعيش في أمريكا وأريد أن أعرف إذا كان يجوز لي العمل في مستودع الأمازون كموظف الذي يجمع المنتجات لطلبات العملاء، لا سيما إذا كنت وجدت صعوبة في الحصول على عمل في مكان آخر؟

October 02, 2016

لا بأس، وإذا وجدت ضررا أو مفسدة على دينك ودنياك فاترك
وفقك الله وفتح عليك من أطيب أرزاقه، ورزقك التقى والهدى والعفاف والغنى

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http://ask.fm/MajedJarrar/answers/138887380802 Ahead of who?

October 02, 2016

Of the targeted audience.

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