To be honest,shaykh,I don't quiet understand why I should be jealous over my sister for having a boyfriend if having a husband is fine. Could you explain? I have no guts to ask this to someone in real life so please don't ignore it.
I have not ignored it; the question has kept me thinking for days.
Imagine you're an optician, and someone says to you during an eye exam: "I don't understand what's the fuss about having to tell you which letter is what, they all look the same to me."
You'll be greatly concerned; not because the letters are a sacred text, nor because they mean something to you. Rather, those letters are indicators for healthy eyes and brain. A person who says they're the same may suffer from a brain tumor, not weak eyes.
Jealousy over your womenfolk from falling into obscenity, and happiness for them for marriage, are basic indicators of a living heart that can distinct the permissible from the prohibited. This is the basic instinct of morality that God created.
The Prophetic saying: "a sin is what troubles your chest, and you'd hate people to know about" refers to that basic instinct.
So, what happened to those who don't feel a sin is shameful anymore? Their instinct became corrupted.
The prophet said: "A word of truth which remained from previous religions: 'If you have no shame, then you might as well do what you will'."
That's not an invitation to obscenity; rather it's a severe warning that a person might have reached the bottom of the pit in sinfulness.
Read those words carefully:
Huthaifa said: I heard the Prophet say: Temptations will be presented to people's heartslike a reed mat being woven; stick by stick. Any heart that accepts one will have a black mark put into it, while a heart that rejects it will have a white mark put in it. Eventually, hearts will be of two types: one like a white stone which will not be harmed by any temptation as long as the heavens and the earth endure; and the other black and grey, like an upside down cup, unable to recognize the common good nor reject the clear evil, except what these desires dictate." (Sahih Muslim, 267)
Your shame in asking this publicly is a sign of life. But your heart needs immediate attention. Speak to a local imam.
Imagine you're an optician, and someone says to you during an eye exam: "I don't understand what's the fuss about having to tell you which letter is what, they all look the same to me."
You'll be greatly concerned; not because the letters are a sacred text, nor because they mean something to you. Rather, those letters are indicators for healthy eyes and brain. A person who says they're the same may suffer from a brain tumor, not weak eyes.
Jealousy over your womenfolk from falling into obscenity, and happiness for them for marriage, are basic indicators of a living heart that can distinct the permissible from the prohibited. This is the basic instinct of morality that God created.
The Prophetic saying: "a sin is what troubles your chest, and you'd hate people to know about" refers to that basic instinct.
So, what happened to those who don't feel a sin is shameful anymore? Their instinct became corrupted.
The prophet said: "A word of truth which remained from previous religions: 'If you have no shame, then you might as well do what you will'."
That's not an invitation to obscenity; rather it's a severe warning that a person might have reached the bottom of the pit in sinfulness.
Read those words carefully:
Huthaifa said: I heard the Prophet say: Temptations will be presented to people's heartslike a reed mat being woven; stick by stick. Any heart that accepts one will have a black mark put into it, while a heart that rejects it will have a white mark put in it. Eventually, hearts will be of two types: one like a white stone which will not be harmed by any temptation as long as the heavens and the earth endure; and the other black and grey, like an upside down cup, unable to recognize the common good nor reject the clear evil, except what these desires dictate." (Sahih Muslim, 267)
Your shame in asking this publicly is a sign of life. But your heart needs immediate attention. Speak to a local imam.
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