I know from watching your YouTube that I have put her above the rest, but I can't take her down. I have really tried but I can't get over her. I have put interest into other girls but I always go back to her. Please help. I have tried to solve this myself but can't. Thanks Josh.

March 13, 2015

Part of the issue is that you're probably surrounding yourself with things that remind you of her. You might be looking at her profiles online or paying attention to her in class. I would suggest is to focus a lot more of your attention and meeting new people. I know you said you tried this and it didn't work but because something doesn't work doesn't mean that eventually it won't. Plus you know what your goal is, now you just have to go after it.

How could I start this random conversation on Instagram with the girl. (This one is continued)

March 13, 2015

A good way to start the conversation his by responding to her pictures. Find a picture she uploads that's new end of something interesting to talk about then leave a comment and ask her a question on there start talking to her about your own experience related to that picture continue the conversation. one of the hard things you can encounter is keeping the conversation going so what I would suggest is to take a picture of yourself with conversation, send it to her and write hashtag conversation selfie now your turn, that way you can get conversation to be more personalized quickly.

So there's this girl I like, if I asked her out she would say no, so how could I charm her to get her to so yes?

March 13, 2015

You can't assume that she's going to say no, you have to try. The only way you'll know for sure, otherwise you're going to just do yourself down for you get started. If you spend a good amount of time getting to know her first and then ask her out she may say yes. But you have to be willing to try.

I'm 12 and I fancy this girl, she knows I like her but if I asked her out she would say no. How could I try get her to go out with me?

March 13, 2015

Hey man, so maybe the solution isn't to ask her spend some time getting to know her. instead of asking to go out on a date just spend some time talking to her when you see her. and then invite her to go for a walk with you and keep talking. you can do this at lunch, or after school if you can. Keep it very simple don't build too much into it or else you're going to get nervous. I believe in you, you can do it!

I am in the seventh grade. I have had a crush on this girl since the start of 6th grade. The problem is I know she does not like me, I try to get over her but I can't. I have been a lot closer friends with other girls. I am running out of Characters so just answer my problem in the next one please.

March 13, 2015

Hey man it can be tough sometimes to actually get over a girl. It could take months sometimes or even years. the key here is to keep yourself focused on the prize and the prize here is you, your happiness and your well being. The only way to not think about her is to not interact with her profiles online and to just go about your day like normal without her being a part of it. It just takes time the only real solution. I know that's not the best of answers to hear but it's the most honest one.

I can't talk to this shy girl I like at my school, we've made eye contact now and then but I just don't have confidence to say Hi, is Facebook a bad way to start?

March 13, 2015

I made a video all about how to ask your crush out on Facebook which kind of explains how it can be a little impersonal because the girl may be getting other guys messaging her as well which makes you look just like the rest of them and not stand out. Very best way to grab attention in person rather than online as you can add your personal flare to it all and stand out. I know it can be tough if you feel nervous and shy if she's nervous and shy as well then it becomes your role to be the comforting one that makes her feel less nervous. I believe in you, I know you can do it!

so there's this cute girl that goes to my school and we recently both followed each other on Instagram. How could I get to know her better? We have no classes and never see each other. Would like to talk to her and see where things go but my only option is Instagram. Should I ask for her # in DM's?

March 13, 2015

If your only option is to messenger Instagram then I would start that conversation there and make a joke about it. Tell her that you see her post on Instagram but you never see her in school, what gives? Say something like we should meet up and hang out sometime and then tell her where you'll be when you're free. Whether it's at lunch time or after school trying to lock in an actual time to meet up in person.

I like this shy girl at my school and I don't know how to approach her or what to say. I think I've made it obvious that I like her but I can't buildup confidence to go say Hi, I'm afraid that I'll make the conversation awkward so I just end up talking myself out of it everytime.

March 13, 2015

Hey, you know the fear is real asking her out but showing her that you like her it's all about being there in the moment talking to her and spending time with her. Otherwise doing things like having your friend tell her that you like her, messaging her on Facebook about it, or writing a note won't be as effective in getting her to say yes and feel the same physical feelings that you do. I made a video recently about building confidence you should check it out and see if maybe can help you out with that :)

Is a compliment a good way to start a conversation with a girl?

March 12, 2015

Compliments should generally be reserved for later on in the conversation if you're not the kind of guy who feels comfortable complimenting a girl and then balancing it out with something flirty. What I mean by that is if your plan is to just tell the girl hey I think your beautiful and wait for an answer then she's going to think it's a little weird but if you say hey think you're beautiful but beauty is in everything so what do you have going for you besides your looks, that me lead into her talking more about herself. However, I wouldn't open a conversation with that because it may come off as rude, first you need to establish a connection where are you guys can talk and joke with each other because that phrase comes off more like a joke and is a little choking and flirty rather than a good way to just starting conversation.

Hey I'm a shy guy and I really like this girl we both play instruments and I was curious on how to get her number easy

March 12, 2015

Hey, I just wanted to video a week or so ago about asking a girl for her number. You might want to check that out for more in-depth tips. Since you guys have a connection through playing instruments that's a perfect conversation starter. You can ask her if she's played at any concerts or in any performances or if she just generally enjoys playing music on her own. There's a lot of ways you can take the conversation and after you talk to her for a while, throw in asking for her number as a general part of the conversation by saying "Hey let me get your number so we can hang out sometime and maybe go to a concert."

Is this a good strategy for the first kiss? We r walking and talking on a trail or path, and I pull up the question "have you ever kissed someone before?" And as I'm saying that I reach my hand around her waist and then ask "will u share my first with me?" And then put her hair behind her ear & kiss

March 12, 2015

Hey I know it may seem like it would be romantic but imagine if you instead used no words. C doing without saying create a more romantic atmosphere because the girl doesn't need to be told what you're going to do she just has to experience it to get that magic. It may seem easier to just stay I'm going to do this and then I want to do this but trust me if you put your arm around her waist look her in the eyes and just kiss her silently it'll be so much more romantic.

What is a smooth way to go in for a kiss Josh?

March 12, 2015

Usually when you go for a kiss you get nervous because waiting for the right opportunity to do it. A good way to get over the nervousness and to create a moment where the kiss should happen is by allowing silence 10 to the conversation. If you're talking to slowly allow yourself to trail off and then look at her for a few seconds smile and lean in for the kiss. It's better to kiss a girl after being silent than to say something and lead into the kiss because then it doesn't come off as magical.

I have a crush in school and she asked me who i liked should i just tell her and how

March 11, 2015

Well here's the thing, if you tell her who your crush is are you ready to ask the girl out yourself? The last thing you want to do is have you like go through the grapevine to her and have her singing to herself whether or not she wants to be with you. you have a much higher chance of going out with her if you talk to her and ask her out. I know it can be scary but building the confidence here to talk to her will be the greatest move you can make. I believe in you and I know you can do it!

My crushes best friend has a crush on me and i don't want to ignore her because my crush might think i am being a jerk and being mean to her friends but in the previous question i sent you, you can tell we are great friends and i don't know what to do

March 11, 2015

If your crush thinks that you like her friend then she's going to do everything she can to back away from interfering. In a case like this you have to very lightly tell the friend that you're not interested so that you don't hurt your chances with your crush. Otherwise if you play up that you might be interested, and you end up hurting her feelings you will only push your crush away. Let your crushes friend know that she's cool but you're not interested in her in that way.

I have a crush on this girl and we flirt a lot together. we are really great friends but i know she has a boyfriend but he doesn't go to our school and is going to be leaving for college soon. she is showing signs she likes me but i don't know what to do.

March 11, 2015

Hey, it sounds like she might just be friendly with you because she enjoys talking to you and enjoy your company. It's hard sometimes to distinguish the difference between being friendly and being flirty because if you like the girl, you look more into her actions and assume that it's flirty. the fact that she has a boyfriend might mean that she is just being friendly, despite the fact that he's going with the college. If you want, you could always wait till that happens and then potentially ask her out but you would kind of be stepping on his toes when he leaves which is not really a cool thing to do. I would probably just wait until they officially broke up and then go after her.

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