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Ok so me and my best friends conversations die in 2 seconds and this is how it goes "Hi" "Hi" "Hows Stuff" "Good u?" Good" end any tips on how the heck to keep it going?

Usually conversations like that die because there is no substance. Both of you are hoping the other person will say something interesting. It's on you to make the conversation worthwhile, try asking random questions. Look up a list of 100 ice breaker questions and go down the list asking each other.

2 months ago I asked out my crush and she said yes. Yet, we haven't decided the time or place and by that time she probably has forgotten it. I would like to remind her of that (or let's say re-ask her out) as soon as exam season is finished. How to do so? I don't want to spend my holidays alone...

The next time you ask a girl out make sure to be persistent about it. Don't wait too long for her to get back to you, if those plans don't work opt for smaller plans and the best case scenario is asking her to do something in that moment or that day. Always try to have a plan in place instead of saying "Hey do you want to go out some time?". Saying "hey let's get something to eat after school today" works best. If she says no then ask about tomorrow.

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What's your profession? Where did you study?

Right now I'm a Media Manager so I do a lot of design work like banners, animated videos and other creative strategy stuff in the field of marketing for an education company. I went to school for business and digital arts but I also studied philosophy and I spend a lot of time reading psychology and sociology articles. I am also a huge fan of Mister Rogers who has been a major influence on what I do.

Josh, I like this girl and she's cousins with my "Girl friend" (she just my friend) and I wanna hook up with her but she has a boyfriend. They broke up and then got back together. Me and her had a 5 sec eye contact today and I'm wondering how can I make her mine? What should I do? Please respond bro

If she has a boyfriend then you should be respectful of that. Just because you guys shared eye contact doesn't mean that she's into you, it just means you shared eye contact. What you can do for now is build a friendship with her and if she's single in the future, turn that friendship into something more.

Hey Josh about a year ago I liked this girl and she found out that I liked her.She rejected me softly and I soon began to stop liking her.But now it's been a year and I'm like her best friend,I know who she likes and we're very close.But suddenly I like her again.what should I do?

It's possible that by now she's put you in the friend zone. It might make sense to start distancing yourself from her and to not be as close of a friend if you want her to view you in a different light. Otherwise if you try to ask her out now she's gonna be thrown off and feel like you've betrayed your friendship with her.

Hey Josh, there's this girl I like and I don't know if she likes me (like she acts and texts) or someone else (like her friend said). what's your advice?

Whenever you like a girl, spend less time trying to figure out if she likes you and more time trying to get her to see why she should like you. That means asking her out and being a fun confident guy around her so that she can start to build attraction for you.

I met a girl I liked 2 yrs ago.She was from another school.When I told her how I felt,she rejected me saying to just be friends, because we didnt know each other too well. We lost contact. Now I am going to high school and she is going to be in the same school. What should I do to get her next year?

Since time has passed I would say you have had some time to change yourself to not fall into the same rut you did before. This time around try getting to know her before asking her out. Talk about how you guys knew each other before, ask her what she's been up to since then and make plans to hang out one day.

I like this girl she likes this boy this boy liked her : enter solution here

If she's not going out with him then her liking him is nothing more than that. You can still warm up to her and get her to like you more. Plus, just because he likes her doesn't mean he's going to act on it. And if he does and he makes her his girlfriend first then that's just a lesson for you that you gotta step up and move in quicker next time.

Hey josh I like this girl and she had a boyfriend. They broke up and got back together. I wanna get her to be my friend so that when he graduates next year. I'll hopefully have a chance.

A good way to be her friend now is to start talking and connecting to her about something that you both enjoy. If you can find a common thread you can build a friendship out of it. If she's happy with her boyfriend though, you just gotta wait it out without really investing too much time and emotion into it. If they break up then they do, if they don't then they dont. Don't let it affect how you approach life going forward.

my crush says that 'we're not friends anymore' and that "she's not going to talk to me" anymore is that a good or bad thing?

It's not really a good thing, she may have felt like you did something to betray her trust and because of that she wants to keep her distance. What does she feel you did they bothered her?
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(Continue of "stop talking") ...I did "bother" her one time too many and apologize but she can't accept my apology and it seems as if she had other problems in her life going on. She's seems annoyed of everyone. So I don't know if it's me or is it everyone and if it's something I should try again?

Hmm if she feels like you bothered her by messaging her too much or cyber stalking her in some way then that's on you and your behavior. There may be other factors at play but you only have control over the ones that you do. Try to move away from your previous behavior and interact with her in a way that shows her you're not like that anymore.

Hey Josh, There's this girl that I like that I think likes me back, but she doesn't want a relationship right now because she is trying to get over her ex. There's also this other girl that I realized that I like, and she may like me back too and want a relationship now. Should I wait or not?

What I would suggest doing is spending time with both girls and getting to know them better. You don't have to jump into a relationship with either of them, you can learn more about each of them and then see which one might be better to pursue once you've built up more attraction with one of them.

Hey Josh, there is a girl that I used to like but now I dont really have feeling towards her. I know she likes me, we used to be together, but the only thing I feel is jealousy when any other boy is around. How to deal with it? Btw: thanks for many great advices!

Hmm if you don't like her anymore than you have to work up the courage to not be jealous about her talking to other guys. It's a natural feeling when you don't want an opportunity to slip away and you're just banking on it always be available but the reality is that the girl deserves her own level of happiness, which if you're not going to offer it she'll find from someone else.

j/w, what is this? An account to give kids advice about girls? Or did you just happen to answer a couple of questions like that and it snowballed from there?

Basically ask.fm is a way for people to ask me questions anonymously. I noticed that a lot of my audience was already on here so I made it a place for people to ask me stuff along with email and social media.
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Hi josh, the latest weeks I've wanted to ask out my friend an the other day I did. Since we already were friends I thought of something easy. This Sunday we're gonna see a movie. I'm not really that guy who goes on dates, what should I do to have a successful date?

To make it a successful date and not two friends just going to catch a movie, you gotta be upfront with her. Let her know that you're taking her out on a date rather than just going to the movies and expecting her to catch the hint that it's a date.

My girlfriend is moving away to another school and we both know we're going to have to break it up soon because we both know LDR never last. My question is how should I end it with her and does this relationship mean it ended on good terms?

If you both know that you have to end it because it's going to be long distance then there shouldn't be hard feelings. The question is, if there's distance is there still a way you can see her? Maybe on the weekends?
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hi, would you make a video, how to get to know new people, like a girl that you are not in a class with, but you are in the same school etc. Just people that you do not have a direct contact with. Thanks

Hey, I sort of covered that across a few videos in my how to ask out a girl series. I put a bunch of them in a playlist on my channel which you can check out.

Funny thing is I don't think anyone's asked you about your love life? Do you have a girlfriend?

Hey, I do have a girlfriend. A while back I did a video of 10 facts about me. You can find it on my channel if you search 10 facts.
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Hey josh I like this girl and we're friends and her friends told Nero ask her out and I told her I liked her over kik, but then she said that she likes some jock and now idk what to do. Btw I'm in middle school

Hey, next time try talking to her in person and flirting with her first. That way you don't resort to asking her out over kik where it's very impersonal. And just because she likes someone else doesn't mean you can't replace him by being persistent and flirting with her.

So my question was is it a good idea to give a girl my number that when I asked her out she said her parents will not let her date? I will say this "here is my number, call me if ur parents change there mind about dating" we r going to differnt schools next year (to be countiuneud)

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I know it feels impossible to get over your crush but take the advice of people before you that have been in your shoes. As life goes on you will meet new people and your old crushes will fade into the back in replacement for new people. If her parents don't want her dating now it's still good to be active and talk to her. She may not be able to date now but that doesn't mean you can't start a friendship with her that you build up until she's ready to date. Get her number and talk to her, don't wait on her to contact you because you'll never know what she'll do.

Hey josh I like this girl and her friends eventually told me that I should ask her out, I told her I liked her over kik and then she said she liked someone else and idk what to do

Liking someone doesn't mean it's the same as going out with them. Just because she likes someone else right now doesn't mean she can't grow to like you. If you keep talking and flirting with her then she might start to like you more. The next time don't settle for telling her, especially over something like kik. If you want to beat out this other person as her crush you have to talk to her in person. That confidence will set you apart from the other guy.

Josh I'm the one that asked the q about giving the girl my number. But if she says no what do I do. I no u have a video about it but she is to special. I can't possibly ever get over her. I don't think I will ever meet any other person like her or even close to as good.;(

If you want to raise your chances of success then you have to get her number. Giving her your number and waiting is too passive, if she chooses to do nothing then you've lost your opportunity. Also if she decides at the end it's not something she wants to pursue then you don't have a choice but to let go. The best thing to do is listen to people who have also had crushes before and didn't get with them, we're they able to move on? If so, then take it as a sign that with time you can too.

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