Are you a self actualized individual?
I did a little bit of research on the topic and I would say I might be, although I think an outside perspective of myself would help me understand myself better in regards to the term.
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Josh what if a girl has a friend who influences her to think boys are just jerks and heartbreakers, and how would someone approach and talk to that couple of individuals?
It sounds like the friend may have been hurt by a guy in the past or they may have been conditioned to dislike guys. In that case I would try to talk to both of them in a friendly and invite way. Don't flirt or hit on either one, just aim to talk to them about very casual things so they can over time let their guard down.
How do I approach a girl in the best way possible without her thinking I'm trying to hit on her?
Try approaching her with a question and a reason for asking the question. For example you could say "hey I wanted to get your opinion on something. what's a good movie to see in theaters now? the reason I ask is because my friends and I want to go this weekend to see something." Framing your question with a reason helps build a better context around it.
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Josh what if my crush knows a lot of guys more than me? Will this affect my chances with her?
It won't if you don't let it. Knowing a lot of people doesn't mean that a lot of guys are interesting enough for her to want to date or talk to more. Be the exception and try to offer a fun time when you're around her. Ask her to hang out and step ahead of a lot of the guys who are probably nervous and waiting for the right moment. For you, make that right moment right now.
Hey so how do i know if i like a girl?
A good indicator is to see if you find yourself thinking about her a lot, looking at her a lot and wanting to get to know her better. those are signs of interest in her but it will be when you spend one on one time with her that you'll begin to see if you like her romantically.
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How do i not come on too strong when im talking to a girl?
Remember that a conversation should be engaging and open. if you find yourself badgering her or forcing her to remain in the convo then it might be too strong. Ask her what she thinks about whatever you're talking about and looking at her response you'll have a better understanding.
Ok so I'm a girl. And I like this guy and he and I have been on and off sence summer. And his bestfriend likes me. And I rejected him. And last night was prom. And me and my crush went together. And he kissed me and he didn't even tell his friend that we were going together. Idk what to say to crush
hey, it sounds like it's on him to tell his friend what happened not you. What I would do is if you're interested in him try talking to him when you see him in the school and ask him if he wants to hang out. Take things slow and don't feel the need to put a label on something immediately, it may take some time for him to understand what he wants and to figure out what works best for you too.
Ight my nigga thanks for telling me that and sorry for askin two questions I didn't think I sent dat first one. Thanks my nigga Homeboy Homie Dawg Fam Nigga
no problem
Aye homeboy It been a while. Now I like this girl but I don't know how introduce myself. And my niggas is always hittin on her so how do I do this fam. Thanks in advance dawg
Confidence is where it's at, you may need to start small by introducing yourself and asking her a question to start, something that she can give her opinion on and from there you can ask more about her to show interest and to see if she's someone you may be interested in talking to.
So my crush barely notices me. We have only spoken once or twice, and she always hangs out with a friend or friend group. She is also like the...how do you say...popular girl/"cutest" girl, but I don't look at her that way. Is there any way to resolve this problem?
If she's always with friends then the best thing might be to get comfortable talking to her and her friends. Try starting a conversation with her whole group and pull her out once you see the group enjoys you being there. I made a video called "How to Ask a Girl in Front of her Friends" which might help you out here too.
Hey Josh, I broke up with a girl (THE popular one) and now, shortly after that she began to date a guy from our school, that I really dislike (his parents are very rich and he is boasting about it all the time). This girl also used to say that he is an idiot. I don't know if it's a revenge or what
I made a video called "How to Get Revenge on your Ex" which might help you out in figuring out the clues. Either way what she chooses to do is no longer your concern really, how she carries her life going forward is going to be her decision which is the hard thing to grasp.
I thought me and this freshman had something going on until today she considered me a brother. Well I took the bus with her and she introduced her friend to me and that's it. She was pretty cute and I wanted to know if I should ask my "sister" or whatever if I can hang with her or is that rude?
If she's calling you her brother that's the ultimate defensive technique to make sure you know she's not interested. I would say go after the best friend and make it very apparent to the first girl that you're interested in her friends. She may end up becoming your wing girl.
I learned how to speak with confidence yet people still can't hear me. I've searched the internet for speaking louder but the only way I can speak louder is if I yelled. How do I speak louder and clearer? Are there any techniques you have? Also if I'm in a crowd how do I speak loud enough?
One technique for boosting the base of your voice is to practice slowly bringing it to a rise, and then mastering keeping it at the pitch you want. Another technique is to study someone's voice you want to emulate and practice saying their quotes and listening to them talk over and over.
So I have been talking to this girl... We kinda got into a fight today and I can't tell if she is mad at me or not but she thinks I'm talking to other girls. Which I'm not. How can I fix this. It's getting fixed slowly but I want things to get back to the way they were. Any advice?
A good way to show her that you're not talking to other girls is to bump up your level of commitment to making her your girlfriend. If you don't feel comfortable doing that yet the explain to her that you're not ready to settle down with her and that she can try to trust you or else what you have may not work.
I like this girl. But her and her boyfriend just broke up like literally yesterday. And I'm friends with the ex... And I told her who I liked, and she's kind of flirting with me, but idk what to do
Hmm you're gonna have to see if going after her is something that is going to bother your friend or her ex. She may be flirting as a way to help her get over the breakup or to make him jealous. Either way you should talk to him about it and ask if it's cool if you go out with her, preferably a little while longer after their breakup.
How supportive are your parents?
My parents were always concerned with me having a secure and safe life. As I've begun developing my own path where I plan on living a life of self sufficiency, they grew more and more supportive and trusting of what I was capable of.
Aye fam! It's been a while since we done talked. That's because I was tryna better myself. And lemme tell you something my nigga it's working great. But yo boi has an issue. See I like dis fine ass girl but i dont know how to approach her.
Well, have you ever spoken to her before or is she someone new?
So my girlfriend is really shy. She barely even talks to me. Is there a way I can get her to not be as shy near me or will it happen gradually? Thanks for the help in advance :)
Hey, shyness is something that lessens over time as the shy person begins to open up more. I would just assure her that she can be herself around you and that there's nothing to worry about with you.
I haven't spoken to my crush in a while, how do I approach her to a conversation in which I can get her to be interested in me again? I'm the guy who has a foreign exchange crush.
Saying you want to catch up is always a good reason to jump back into conversation with someone. Don't say you want to catch up and then wait for an answer, just jump into the conversation and start talking to her. Act as if there was no gap of time and make it as friendly and casual as you can as quickly as you can.
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What do you mean by "catching up"? Just a simple conversation or to hang out?
it can mean both, catching up could be talking about what's been going on in your life, asking them what's going on in theirs and making plans to hang out.
Do you think "being always on her side no matter what" could annoy a girl at some point?
I think you should never always be on someone's side. Each and everyone of us is different and in those differences we may disagree or not support the decision that other person will always make. Telling her that might annoy her because it might come off like you won't have a backbone to stand up for yourself when necessary. a little challenge isn't always a bad thing.
In the video about getting back with your ex you suggested sending her a letter. How should it look like? What should I write? Thanks Josh, I really apreciate your advice
Hey, I'm not sure what I said about sending a letter but I think the best approach is to talk to her in person. if you see her go up go her and say something like "hey, it's been a while. we should catch up" and then proceed to talk about what you've been up to while also asking her what she's been up to.
There's this freshman girl I just met last week and she's been calling me her best friend in a joking matter that I'm her friend.I'm a junior and I think she's trying to gain rep by knowing me or idk.
hmm it sounds like she may be trying to warm up to you. if you feel like she's using you in some way, talk to her about it and ask her why she considers you her best friend.
part 3: and I've considered many times blocking communication from her. idk what it is about her, she's so genuine and kind, but maybe she's just being friendly??! I'm so confused and I need help. I'm in 8th grade and am a big fan of ur channel. thanks josh!
hey, I am against the idea of stealing another guys girlfriend. No one would want that to happen to their girl so the most ethical thing is to be respectful of their relationship. I also wouldn't recommend just being friends because then she's going to classify you as a guy in the friend zone. Where you should stand is somewhere on the sidelines of knowing her enough to still talk to her from time to time but also having enough distance so that she doesn't make any determinations about you. Or if you feel like it just pains you to be around her or even talk to her while she has a boyfriend, then try to shift your focus to talking to other girls so that you can open up your world to new people.
How to make a girl give you another chance?
check out my video on persistence called does being persistent get you the girl. That will help you see how to go about talking to her so that you can win her heart.
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