i need your help. so this girl i like isnt talking to me anying more and when were playing ps4 together she doesnt anwer me back put she will with the other guys. then the dude i hate and he hates me back just got with it again and my friend told the guy i hate that i liked her know there together.

December 30, 2015

Hey, sorry to hear that they got together. Talking through PS4 is a good way to build a friendship with her but if you liked her, talking in person would have been much more effective for getting her to see where you stood. For now, dont sweat it. If they break up then talk to her in person if you can.

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No offense but I don't think you understand my situation. My crushes friends won't allow me to even say a single word to them and I can't help that. I don't want to say anything because I don't want them to think I am a jerk and tell my crush something I don't want them to. It's a pretty bad situ.

December 30, 2015

Hey, i didnt realize the situation was that severe. I think part of it might be walls that you've set up for yourself, you even said it yourself that you dont want them to think youre a jerk and say something to her. You created that assumption, there isnt anyone that is impossible to talk to. And if you do try to talk to them and they ignore you or insult you, ask yourself, if you go put with this girl, are those the kind of people youre going to want to surround yourself with anyway?

I feel like I'm in half lust and half love with my gf, but I'm not sure. I checked your video out, but half are lust and half are love. I mean I wish we could fuck, but at the same time I care about her feelings on that subject. Its an instinct for a guy to wanna have sexual thoughts right?

December 30, 2015

Its instinctual for all people to have sexual thoughts, guys and girls. Guys just tend to be more open about it because our society celebrates men being verbal about their sexuality where as for women its taboo. Theres nothing wrong with wanting to have sex, if you care about her it can be a really amazing experience if you both feel the same way.

So my gf has this hot dress I saw her wear once in her fb profile pics and I wanted to know how do I get her to wear it again? She's those kinds of girls that DON'T wear pretty stuff. She mostly wears a sweater and jeans and I wanted to see her in a dress without pushing it too far

December 30, 2015

She probably only wears the dress on special occasions? If you take the time to get to know her better, over time youll share more special moments with her and she'll bust out those awesome dresses.

Tomorow I'll go out wit my LD best buddy, however we are limited by 1-hour. Thing is we have too many things to talk about, but it's also nearly the best chance to talk to her about the probls I'm having with my crush, which might need to take a long time as well. Any help to manage the time better?

December 30, 2015

Try to condense the details into what you want to accomplish and focus on coming up with ways to do that. Save the details for talking online or through some other method.

Im at 8th grade. I like a girl which we werent in the same primary school.. So i like her and want to text but i dont want to appear as a weirdo... I want to have a nice convertation which she enjoys but also not bore her. Also she seems to have a boy :( BTW Merry Christmass

December 28, 2015

hey, it sounds like a few things may be stacked against you. If shes in another school and has a boyfriend then its probably best to not reveal your feelings to her since there isnt much that can happen from there once you do. I would wait for an opportunity to connect with her again, the next time you see her on person, or something like that. From there, focus on building a friendship that can grow. When she becomes single, then you can try to build it from there, but that will be only after youve built a framework as friends.

Does lust eventually turn into love?

December 28, 2015

Sometimes it does, but the main difference between the two are very real. Search my channel for a video called "The difference between love and lust".

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All the girls in my school seem to hate me. I've asked out a few of them over the 6 years I've been going to this school and they've all said no and now I'm starting to wonder why.

December 28, 2015

Hey, i know it can feel sometimes like all the girls may hate you but sometimes it just seems that way when things arent working out like we want them to. The truth is, it may not be that everyone hates you but that you just have to change your approach. Instead of pushing to ask them out, try getting to know the girl first and focus on building a strong friendship with them.

What to do when you want to pursue a girl but she's often around a guy and you're not sure if they're dating.

December 28, 2015

Thats a good question, i made a video on how to ask a girl out if she has a boyfriend which might be helpful for you if you want to find out.

Happy holidays Josh. Take it easy

December 28, 2015

Happy Holidays to you too!

What if my crushes friends don't want to give me the time of day because of what they think of me. (Being a nerd/geek whatever). I don't want to be a jerk so they will get my crush to not like me or have the same vision on me.

December 22, 2015

Its tough when other people interfere in what could be your relationship. One thing i would suggest doing is going against the grain here and talking to her friends. If you can form a connection with a few of them then they wont really interfere with you talking to her. At the end of the day, shes her own person and makes her own decision.

Great ways to keep a text conversation going?

December 22, 2015

I made a video about how to text you crush which might be helpful, serch my channel for that. All in all if a convo dies, let it die. Message them later with a new thought and spark up a new convo based on something random you saw which reminded you of them.

Oh no, my crush's LD crush is going to our class, and I'm only 12 days from finishing holidays. I'm so screwed!!!! HELP!!!

December 21, 2015

Hey, there isnt much you can do in 12 days, however what you can focus on is buiding a friendship with her right now. Getting to know her better only sets you up in line to building something mode with her. Focus on the first step and then as you get to know her, think about building something out. If they dont end up going out then you have a better chance.

I wrote a song for my crush. But she has a boyfriend and I had to move and now live 3 hours away. I feel like singing it to her is the only way I could show her how I feel. But my only problem is her bf. Any good advice?

December 21, 2015

Hey, i know it might feel like a good idea to sing to her but i wouldnt advise it. Keep in mind the reason you may want to do it falls back on your needs rather than what she wants. When a guy wants to confess his love to his crush, it usually falls on a need he has to get it off of his chest, which rarely ever thinks about or takes the other persons feelings or potential reaction into play. Since she has a boyfriend and lives 3 hours away, how can she respond to it in a way that extends beyond "aww thanks". It might leave you feeling hurt in the end :/

Are arguments normal in a relationship?

December 21, 2015

Theyre totally normal. Think of a relationship as two people committing to helping the other grow. Like any kind of growth you will encounter, there will be resistence simply becahse change is never easy. With every fight, one thing you should always look back on is the fact that you two are aiming to help each other, be willing to apologize if you hurt your partner and see how you can gain from the interactions to communicate better next time.

Hey Josh. Are you a Walking dead fan?

December 21, 2015

i am, im still behind on a few of the comics and the last season but im a huge fan

How do I ask people to do things without seeming bossy or needy? I'm the president of a club at my school and it's becoming hard to get people to help out at all.

December 18, 2015

People sometimes lose sight of the value they can accomplish. When you talk to them, try explaining the bigger picture and helping them see their role in it. Even if its somerhing simple, walk them through each step of ths process to see how every small action helps.

My gf is like a closed book. She isn't shy or anything but I feel like her past relationships didn't end well so she has issues. I want her to be more open with me and truthful. How do I open her up?

December 17, 2015

The way to open her up is to show her respect and to give her time. Always reassure her that you want to know more about her but you want to talk to her when shes ready. Dont pressure her to open up and dont really ask too often for her too, she needs to feel comfortable and safe telling you whats gone on in her life in order for her to be open.

When in a relationship does the asking the other one out mutual or does the boyfriend always have to ask her girlfriend to hang out?

December 17, 2015

It can work either way, when you're going out it comes down to both people making an effort to ask the other to hang out.

Hey I need so help what should I do get bullied all the time

December 17, 2015

I made a video a while back on how to deal with bullies, if you search my channel you should be able to find it. What it ultimately comes down to is realizing that the bully picks on you to hide their own insecurities and if you say to them in a stern way "hey, what youre doing is really not cool. Youre better than this." then that may put it into perspective for them.

This girl and I were taking everyday for about 2 months, until we got into a fight over a situation she had with another guy. Now it's been 6 months, we are close but different schools. Is there any sense of texting her again?

December 15, 2015

I made a video about dating a girl in a different school and whether it can work out or not. I would suggest trying to rekindle you friendship. if you can do that then maybe try to lead it in to something more.

Josh if there is a really cute girl sitting all alone (probably waiting for her friends to get to school idk) should I go and talk to her? If I did how would I approach this situation?

December 15, 2015

Approaching her is easier than you think. I would approach her and say something like "hey, i need your opinion on something quick before my friends show up." and ask her for her opinion on something. By establishing that your are also waiting for someone there is less pressure of you sticking around and not leaving. You can vary this up but it comes down to setting an exit up and also leading in with a question.

Are there any tips you have to trying to find out your crushes humor, because I don't want to have boring conversations, but I also don't want to say a joke wrong or not funny to her? So how could I approach this situation?

December 15, 2015

I made a video not too long ago on how to not have boring conversations which you might find helpul. Otherwise be open to asking questions about her hobbies. Does she like to watch Netflix, is she obsessed with music, when was the last time she went to the zoo or a concert?

Honestly I am scared of talking to my crush and then seeing her friends talk about me like I am a loser who doesn't deserve her. How can I avoid people like this? They are my crushes friends who think of me as a loser/nerd (whatever) and I don't want to look like a jerk.

December 15, 2015

Their perception of you stems from them not really knowing you. If you talk to your crush and also make the effort to talk to them in the process then they may all start to see that you are more than what they perceived you to be earlier.

What can I talk about with a girl on a date to make it interesting and fun ?

December 15, 2015

Use it as an opportunity to get to know about her likes and dislikes. I made two videos which might help you, 5 ways to keep a conversation going and how to never have boring conversations which might help you out too.

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