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My bf broke up with me a month ago& I'm struggling, he was my first love & the first guy I told about being sexually assaulted. I'm in therapy& reported it to the police and I'm trying to get my life together but this breakup has made me anxious about the past and worry I'll never trust people again

oh babe :( sounds like things are crazy right now. it's in moments like this that you learn just how strong and capable you really are. you have already overcome a lot, and with time, you'll overcome this too. losing love can make it feel like nothing will ever be the same again, but it always helps me to remind myself that *it will be ok*. *you will find happiness, love that makes your heart pound, sex that feels out of this world, and healing from the past*. therapy is one way to keep moving, so that's great that you're doing that. don't forget to spend time with friends, and do stuff that helps distract you for a little while. focus on you. moving on is going to hurt and you might feel distrust for awhile. that's ok and normal. it's part of healing. eventually, it'll get easier to open yourself up again. and you'll be a little older, wiser, know yourself a little better, and be even more ready to handle what life throws at you. hang in there. x

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I'm in a guy in 20s and I don't go out much to meet women, I'm trying dating apps and used to go out to pubs but I feel like I'm never noticed no matter how confident I am. Could the fact I haven't had sex be noticeable through body language and effect my chances with women?

body language affects dating, yes. but body language is not necessarily related to sexual experience. what i'm drawn to when i go out is how comfortable someone seems. this is sometimes described as "confident", but i don't think that word is entirely accurate. confident implies the need to be assertive, not second guess yourself, take control, not get nervous etc. what some think of as "confident" can read a little weird in dating situations sometimes, depending on the person. alternatively, by "comfortable" i mean: it's sexy when someone's at ease, having a good time, they seem comfortable in their own skin, open to conversation and flirty banter. attentive, but not trying too hard. it's ok to be a little nervous or whatever. in that vein, my advice would be to round up some friends and go out without any intentions, except to have a good time. practice striking up some conversations (dating apps work here too), but don't set any expectations of your exchanges. just practice getting comfortable with light conversation. if one of your friends is better at it, ask them to introduce you to people or help you hone your conversation skills. a good conversation and some dorky humor is how most of my relationships began. hope this helps. you can email me updates if you like. x

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Would you ever consider doing a sexy photo shoot, like for maxim or vanity fair?

probably not. having my sexuality captured by a photographer i don't really know for the masses is not the type of thing that would make me feel sexy. it would make me feel like a product in a way? if that makes sense. i would find a sexy photo shoot more fun with my partner behind the camera.
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Do u think white authors writing POC characters is a form of cultural appropriation? I've heard that argument and it frustrates me: Write non-white characters and u get accused of C.A. Don't write them and u get accussed of whitewashing. I'm starting to believe it's my moral obligation to offend.

eeh yeah i know a few writers who have found themselves criticized no matter their approach. i can't speak for poc. i can speak as a woman. i personally think it's perfectly fine for men to write female characters, but they should take care to write women with as much nuance and depth as they do men. it's tiring to be reduced to stereotypes and eye candy and meaningless side plots that only serve a male protag, you know? if you're unsure about your work, it might help to talk to others who have similarities with your characters to guide your writing, and get their feedback on it. to me, that's a good faith effort, plus it can only strengthen your work. at some point though, there may be criticism either way. such is writing. listen to feedback, don't go too hard on yourself, and keep improving your craft.

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Do you listen to Chapo Trap House? I think you would enjoy the episodes with Amber Lee Frost and the critiques of liberal feminism from a leftist perspective.

thanks, i'll check it out.
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For being anti bully, why are you friends with blaire white? She continues, to this day, misgendering individuals & favorites tweets misgendering & making fun of trans gendered individuals. Where is your red line?

yeaaaa i also take serious issue with it, and pressed her about it during our stream. she acknowledges her behavior (toward riley, specifically) is bullying, but seems to lack the self awareness/compassion to understand her true impact. maybe it's coincidence but i haven't seen her do it as much lately. i wouldn't describe her and i as friends, just acquaintances. haven't talked to her much since we streamed.
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What are some of your favorite musicians?

too many to nameeeeee. my long time favs include fleet foxes, dolly, and kendrick.
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Why is it important to define yourself as "feminist" or not? Isn't the important thing treating people well and good public policy? Labels & ideologies only seem to make things about labels & ideologies, not about helping people.

yeah, i definitely agree. i don't feel labels are nearly as telling or important as concrete actions/policy/etc, and they can wind up being a distraction.
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What finally pushed you to start a conversation and discussion with anti-fems?

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many stuffs. this is basically the topic of my last video. *points there*
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Open up a dictionary, there you'll find the definition of racism

i find the "open a dictionary" response to these types of discussions a bit plebeian. sure, the dictionary provides basic definitions of words, that much is true. but it doesn't necessarily elucidate the confines or nature of a *concept*. this is more the realm of philosophy. people often use words differently than their colloquial meaning or dictionary definition, especially when a general word/concept requires more specificity. chefs, musicians, artists, actors, and scientists all come to mind.
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Criticism from feminists I see abt U is tht U befriended people that were harassing/bullying your friends (from your real life). And by not standing up for them,you threw them under the bus. Do they have a point that because someone is nice to U but shitty to your friends,U shouldn't befriend them?

like i said earlier, i did/have/continue to stand up for people i know by having conversations w/ antis about the nastier behavior. and antis have expressed remorse, told me how they feel, and want to have a healthier environment around this stuff. that's not throwing anyone under the bus, it's called conflict resolution. ironically, most the people i've spent a lot of time defending aren't even friends, just fellow feminists, and they actually treat me like shit online. feels bad man.
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Hello Ms Green, I have a simple question if I may: What would you like to ultimately see come out of your latest endeavour? I know that you know we will not all be singing kumbaya in harmony, but I am interested to know if you have any expectations of possible outcomes. Be seeing you!

crossing fingers for more intellectual honesty, less bullshit, and more questioning our own beliefs rather than retreating to echo chambers
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Do you think that a lot of problems for women come from their thinking of being inferior? If you agree, what good does it do to promote the idea that women are oppressed?

feminism asserts that women are equal, not inferior, and so deserve to be treated as such.
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Laci, as someone who sits closer to the anti side i wanted to say that i have faith that your intentions are good and i have faith that you won't be treated poorly by the people you are reaching out to. You are intelligent and can hold your own and will make informed decisions. Good luck

i appreciate the vote of faith. its been a little demoralizing dealing with so much condescension, however well intentioned.
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I would like to know what your stance on gender is. My view is that there is genotype (genetics, either male or female) and phenotype (looks, the outside, a spectrum) would you agree to this? Please tell me more.

next video bb.
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What's the most shocking thing you've learned since listening to anti's? And please don't let idiots on our side turn you away from dialogue. I was really excited to hear your thoughts on our side and your 2nd video was great and quiet enlightening. It opened my eyes that our side is not so innocent

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thank you for hearing me out. means a lot.
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You say you will always be for social justice, I'm not sure you understand what that means. Social Justice is a justice that views and judges people based on their immutable characteristics(race, sexuality, gender, religion) over their individuality. I don't find that to describe you. Am I wrong?

lol. i would describe that as identity politics, not social justice. social justice is a philosophy of liberty, equality, and.....justice.
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You answered a question that you "felt bullied into silence by people on both sides for years and only recently stopped caring. Thanks depression!" Can you specify the ideas you've wanted to express but were too afraid? Also, did depression cause you to not care or care too much abt others opinion?

mostly my ideological disagreements with 3rd wave feminism. there are a lot of bullies who act as if a difference of opinion is "literal murder". depression caused me to shut down instead of hold my own.
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