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Okay. So, on those particular examples, I was essentially saying, "that's a word that has been used to oppress trans people, and therefore, those who aren't trans have no right to 'reclaim' it."
In that case, it's important to note that out of community voices (i.e. cis people) don't lay claim to those types of words.
In that thread of tweets, I actually tried to provide context for cis LGB empathy, highlighting an example of oppression they may have faced.
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Then I don't understand why you highlight so much the cisgenderism of commentators rather than criticize their thought process when you disagree with them.

Can you provide some sort of example here?

And authority is also made up of the voices of those who are not affected, because they can find another way to relate, or have empathy, or just because they have good analytical skills.

I don't disagree.

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I meant "authority on the subject", not on their own personal experience.

I don't know that anyone can really be an authority on a subject. An individual cannot speak for all. Authority is made up of the voices of all affected.
I'm not an authority on trans issues, as I'm only one person with one set of experiences. The best thing I can do - in addition to sharing my own perspective - is to highlight the voices of others.

Yes, only the quality of their reasoning matter. Experiences are just a starting point to a broader discussion. Emotions can get in the way. With your stance, it sounds like anyone that has experienced some kind of discrimination automatically becomes an authority.

They're authorities on their own personal experience, sure. That gives them a voice in overall conversations about that form of oppression.
Does that mean cis people can't add anything relevant to conversations about issues of trans-based oppression? Of course not. They can chime in. Too often, though, it becomes a situation in which people who haven't experienced these issues first hand find a way of dominating these conversations.

So to comment on an issue, we have to be able to relate on a personal level, otherwise our opinion doesn't carry as much weight ?

Does a white person's opinion on racism hold as much weight as that of someone who has actually experienced racism?
Does a great man's opinion on misogyny hold as much weight as that of someone who has actually experienced misogyny?
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Why do you discount other people's opinion by calling them "cis ..." rather than pointing out where their reasoning is faulty ? Lately, whenever I heard the word "cisgender", it was to discredit someone, which I think is unfair.

I don't use the term 'cis' to discount anyone's experience. It's a descriptor like tall, short, man, woman, straight, gay, trans, etc.
If someone who isn't trans (i.e. They're cisgender) speaks on the topic of trans people, it's important (in my opinion) to note that while these views may come from a well-researched, well meaning place, the person cannot themselves relate on a personal level.
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do you have a fave porn star

Nah. Believe it or not, I don't really watch porn. I've never had a particularly high sex drive.
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What's the hardest thing for you to deal with about being transgender?

Self-identity, self-acceptance, self-image
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how would you describe your personal style/aesthetic? what's a piece in your closet that you can't live without?

Casual. 99% of the time, I'm wearing jeans and a plain top of some sort. Sweatshirts, t-shirts, etc. One item I couldn't do without? My black hoodie.
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What do you think is the biggest issue affecting the transgender community?

Poverty and homelessness (and by extension employment discrimination, housing discrimination, medical discrimination, public attitudes toward trans people).
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How did you end up in freelance journalism?

I love to write. I started reaching out with some of my work, some editors seemed to like my work, and BAM, that's pretty much it.
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Why do you not acknowledge that "tranny" and "shemale" also are slurs that are aimed at drag performers regularly? The slurs are forms of the word transvestite, which by definition means a cross dressing male. Not a transgendered woman.

Oh, I totally agree and understand that those words are also used against drag performers. My issue is that they aren't anywhere nearly exclusive to drag.
In popular culture, those terms are often used as a quick punchline on CBS sitcoms. Most of the time, the butt of the joke is a trans woman (the jokes tend to be something along the lines of "Heh heh, you thought that [slur] was attractive. Heh heh." in regards to a trans character. See: It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Mike & Molly, How I Met Your Mother, and a host of other shows).
If someone wants to use a word to identify themself, go for it! Rock on! There's a difference between using it to describe yourself and using it to describe large swaths of people or just as a general punchline.
You know?
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Do you understand why people think you deliberately incorrectly labeled Calpernia Addam's gender?

I absolutely understand why some people think that, and I feel absolutely awful about it, which is why I apologized as soon as it was brought to my attention.
As a writer, I'm constantly working to improve my work. I need to be much more careful, and much more deliberate with my words.
The best I can do is to apologize and learn from my mistakes.
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