How can I help you to accept Allah as the only true God?
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I like to get naked, lie on my back and stroke myself all over. Am I strange?
Everyone's a little strange. Do what you've got to do, I guess?
How has your usage of hygienic products (body, facial, etc.) changed since you have gone on hormones? Have they adjusted to your gender identity?
Hmm... not really? Maybe?
I never used to wash my face at night; now I do. Really, though, that's just to make sure I clean my makeup (which I previously did not wear) off. Other than that, it's kind of the same old, same old: brush teeth, wear deodorant, stay clean.
I don't think that basic hygiene is necessarily a gendered type of activity set. *shrug*
I never used to wash my face at night; now I do. Really, though, that's just to make sure I clean my makeup (which I previously did not wear) off. Other than that, it's kind of the same old, same old: brush teeth, wear deodorant, stay clean.
I don't think that basic hygiene is necessarily a gendered type of activity set. *shrug*
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When you get sad for no readily apparent reason, and even the support of friends does not help, how do you pull yourself out of it?
I wish I knew. Depression sucks.
Are you friends with any of your ex-es?
Nope. I don't really have too many ex-es, though. I haven't been in touch with any of them in at least a few years. To the best of my knowledge, none of them even know that I'm trans (as I had dated them pre-transition).
You are given the opportunity to rewind your life and be born the in the body that matches your gender. Do you take it?
I know that answers like, "no, I wouldn't be me if that..." are probably more popular and noble, but given that this is 100% a hypothetical, I'll answer like this:
Yes. Absolutely. Without question.
Yes. Absolutely. Without question.
What is your opinion of transwomen who refer to themselves as "traps", and how does that reflect on those who don't?
Honestly, that's one of those terms that really bothers me. While I don't think it's my place to police how other trans women choose to identify themselves, "trap" is one of those terms that perpetuates the "deceptive trans woman" meme. This is troubling, as there are still people out there who are willing to try to use the "trans panic" defense for assaulting or murdering trans women. "Trap" implies that trans women aren't women, just men who "trick" others into sleeping with them.
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What chore do you dislike doing the most?
Cleaning the cages of my 2 two pet rabbits.
How would you feel about the responsible legalization of all drugs (not just marijuana)?
Legalize, but tax and regulate? Sure, why not. The "war on drugs" is a joke.
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OK, this is a difficult and impertinent question to ask and please feel free to ignore if over the line. How do pre-op trans women Erm...masturbate? I ask because another trans woman I know refuses to discuss this other than saying using her penis in the typically male way 'feels wrong'.
Honestly, I don't think there's a standard "this is how you do it" answer. Some people just use the equipment in the standard way, some people get off via prostate stimulation, others try different tricks to do what works for them. I guess the answer is: do what feels right/good. Honestly, I don't really do anything. I just don't. It's not that I'm particularly dysphoric about my parts, but I just don't really feel an urge to do that anymore.
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Which celebrities do you suspect are really aliens walking amongst us?
Mitt Romney... definitely Romney. He's the closest thing to the Cybermen that we'll ever see.
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How would you like to die?
Quickly?
What is your ideal cup size?
On me or on others? (har har)
Honestly, if I had a full C, I think that'd do a lot for my self-esteem, as they'd offset my shoulders a bit (my shoulders are one of my biggest sources of anxiety when it comes to my appearance). However, sadly, I doubt I'll grow to that size, and there are a variety of reasons I'm wary of breast augmentation.
Honestly, if I had a full C, I think that'd do a lot for my self-esteem, as they'd offset my shoulders a bit (my shoulders are one of my biggest sources of anxiety when it comes to my appearance). However, sadly, I doubt I'll grow to that size, and there are a variety of reasons I'm wary of breast augmentation.
Would you ever be involved in a long-distance relationship?
The only way I'd be involved in a long-distance relationship would be if my partner and I were forced to live apart. I'd do long-distance for her. I don't envision that happening anytime soon, though.
Do you think that one thing your soul needed to experience was the trials associated with transitioning?
While I don't care to speak to the theological implications of the idea of a "soul," I think it's a fair question. I do believe that the snail's pace that goes along with transition has helped me appreciate the changes associated with transition. Early transition has been a struggle, but necessary.
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So far, what has been the hardest part about your transition?
Honestly, the hardest thing about transition, for me, has been getting over a fear of interaction with people. I've always struggled with speaking up, with participating in life. A fear of people looking at me and/or making fun of me controlled my life.
When you transition, you really need to be able to block all that out. You need to realize that you may be in situations where people look at you, or maybe they'll make a joke at your expense; but everything will be okay. Things will be okay. Will it suck when someone calls you a name? It sure will, but it will be okay.
Everything is going to be alright.
When you transition, you really need to be able to block all that out. You need to realize that you may be in situations where people look at you, or maybe they'll make a joke at your expense; but everything will be okay. Things will be okay. Will it suck when someone calls you a name? It sure will, but it will be okay.
Everything is going to be alright.
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What is the best advice you would offer a person who is struggling with their gender identity?
This is a tough question, and that's why it's taken me a couple days to get to it. Even after thinking about it, I don't know, it's just... struggling with my gender identity was something so deeply personal to me, that this will vary wildly, and I don't know if there's much universal advice.
I think the first thing you have to do is really, truly be honest with yourself. It wasn't until I started asking myself, "wait, why am I trying so hard to look like a guy and act like a guy?," that I started to realize the depth of my struggle. Was I doing that (presenting male) because that's what came natural to me, felt right? Or was I doing that only because that's what I've been socialized to act like? More and more, I started to realize that the only thing that kept me from accepting myself was the fact that there were expectations put in place by society that lay out what "guys" are supposed to do and what makes up a happy life.
Basically, if you want to figure out who you are, try to think outside the cis-normative box. What if the world didn't expect you to stay a certain gender? What if you could just... be. Where you wouldn't have to try so hard to be something you're not.
That might help you get to the core of it.
Whatever you do, though, don't feel like there is only 1 way to be trans (the trans narrative of "I knew since I was a little kid! I feel trapped in the wrong body! I never doubt myself!) - screw that! You WILL have doubts. It's just how the world works. You might not realize you're trans until you're 30 or 40 or 50. That's okay! Then, if you do decide to transition, don't let ANYONE tell you what you should do. This is your life. Want to go on hormones? Go on hormones. Want to transition socially? Transition socially. Want to have SRS? Get SRS. Whether or not you go want and pursue any of those things, you are still you, and that is okay! A trans woman who gets SRS is no more a woman than a trans woman who decides to be non-op. Just be yourself, and you'll see how much better life can be.
I think the first thing you have to do is really, truly be honest with yourself. It wasn't until I started asking myself, "wait, why am I trying so hard to look like a guy and act like a guy?," that I started to realize the depth of my struggle. Was I doing that (presenting male) because that's what came natural to me, felt right? Or was I doing that only because that's what I've been socialized to act like? More and more, I started to realize that the only thing that kept me from accepting myself was the fact that there were expectations put in place by society that lay out what "guys" are supposed to do and what makes up a happy life.
Basically, if you want to figure out who you are, try to think outside the cis-normative box. What if the world didn't expect you to stay a certain gender? What if you could just... be. Where you wouldn't have to try so hard to be something you're not.
That might help you get to the core of it.
Whatever you do, though, don't feel like there is only 1 way to be trans (the trans narrative of "I knew since I was a little kid! I feel trapped in the wrong body! I never doubt myself!) - screw that! You WILL have doubts. It's just how the world works. You might not realize you're trans until you're 30 or 40 or 50. That's okay! Then, if you do decide to transition, don't let ANYONE tell you what you should do. This is your life. Want to go on hormones? Go on hormones. Want to transition socially? Transition socially. Want to have SRS? Get SRS. Whether or not you go want and pursue any of those things, you are still you, and that is okay! A trans woman who gets SRS is no more a woman than a trans woman who decides to be non-op. Just be yourself, and you'll see how much better life can be.
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So are you im sexually interested in women or men? And are you dating anyone?
I am sexually and romantically attracted to women. Yes, I have a partner of 5+ years.
Hello. I'm sorry if my "money" question was too personal... It was not my intent to offend. If I may ask another question instead: What are the 3 most important things you believe people new to the "T" community (transitioning or not) should be educated on?
No, no, that wasn't too personal at all. I answered it last night on here.
That said, if there are 3 things people new to the trans community should know, I'd say:
1.) Respectful ways to address trans people - Typically, people who haven't been exposed to a trans person in the past are likely to (knowingly or ignorantly) use offensive (to some) slurs or other common verbiage mistakes (referring to trans women as trans men, using "transgender" as a noun, etc.). If someone is new to the community, get to know what others prefer language-wise.
2.) Get to know what your legal rights are (and what they aren't). Employment protections, marriage issues, housing protections, etc.
3.) Get to know some trans role models. The Internet (and media, as a whole) is filled with obnoxiously incorrect information on trans people. Why are a lot of these falacies so prevalent? More often than not, they're written/broadcast by cis people. Read up on some info put out there by trans people themselves.
That said, if there are 3 things people new to the trans community should know, I'd say:
1.) Respectful ways to address trans people - Typically, people who haven't been exposed to a trans person in the past are likely to (knowingly or ignorantly) use offensive (to some) slurs or other common verbiage mistakes (referring to trans women as trans men, using "transgender" as a noun, etc.). If someone is new to the community, get to know what others prefer language-wise.
2.) Get to know what your legal rights are (and what they aren't). Employment protections, marriage issues, housing protections, etc.
3.) Get to know some trans role models. The Internet (and media, as a whole) is filled with obnoxiously incorrect information on trans people. Why are a lot of these falacies so prevalent? More often than not, they're written/broadcast by cis people. Read up on some info put out there by trans people themselves.
How should a perfect weekend start?
With a nap.
Spoiler alert: that's also the answer to "how should a perfect weekend end?"
Spoiler alert: that's also the answer to "how should a perfect weekend end?"
How long were you on HRT before you started to feel any mental/emotional changes?
Mental/Emotional changes were the very first changes I noticed once I started HRT. I'd say that it was somewhere around the 2 week mark where I just started to feel... different. I found it easier to focus. I found myself starting to get sad when I would have previously gotten angry. I began to feel slightly less irritable, in general.
Things just started to feel "right." A decent analogy might be: imagine that you have a car that runs on diesel, but you've been putting unleaded in it. While the car itself is fine, it's not going to work right when you're fueling it with the wrong kind of gas. That's like my brain. with testosterone, things just were not right. This fixed that.
Things just started to feel "right." A decent analogy might be: imagine that you have a car that runs on diesel, but you've been putting unleaded in it. While the car itself is fine, it's not going to work right when you're fueling it with the wrong kind of gas. That's like my brain. with testosterone, things just were not right. This fixed that.
Currently living that "double life", I am still figuring out my path & weighing a lot of factors. Would you be able to share in detail what have been the most necessary/difficult financial expenses to reach your personal wellness goals as a transwoman?
This is an interesting question. While there are some common expenses somewhat universal to early-transition, this is one of those things that varies greatly for different people. There are so many things to factor in:
• do you plan on transitioning medically/seeking out medical assistance? do you have insurance that will cover therapy, HRT, endo appointments? If not, these items can be significant investments?
• do you plan on transitioning at your current job? If not, do you have something else lined up? If yes, do you have a plan in place in case things change in your employment status during transition?
• the cost of a new wardrobe.
• planning on growing your hair out? Wearing a wig? Getting your hair styled can be a somewhat significant cost. A wig might run you a couple hundred dollars.
Then there are other items that you may or may not intend on going through with. Example: if you're planning on getting any surgeries related to transition (SRS, FFS, BA), those can cost tens of thousands of dollars. Laser hair removal may cost upwards of $1,000 (likewise with electrolysis, though that can be even more expensive).
• do you plan on transitioning medically/seeking out medical assistance? do you have insurance that will cover therapy, HRT, endo appointments? If not, these items can be significant investments?
• do you plan on transitioning at your current job? If not, do you have something else lined up? If yes, do you have a plan in place in case things change in your employment status during transition?
• the cost of a new wardrobe.
• planning on growing your hair out? Wearing a wig? Getting your hair styled can be a somewhat significant cost. A wig might run you a couple hundred dollars.
Then there are other items that you may or may not intend on going through with. Example: if you're planning on getting any surgeries related to transition (SRS, FFS, BA), those can cost tens of thousands of dollars. Laser hair removal may cost upwards of $1,000 (likewise with electrolysis, though that can be even more expensive).
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Excuse me?
How does all this gay marriage fuss affect trans people? Can you legally marry now, or if gay marriage was made legal, could you then? Or has the push for gay marriage left trans people on the sidelines (again)?
Marriage equality certainly does affect trans people (which makes the whole debacle over the Human Rights Campaign employee saying, "marriage equality is not a trans issue," all the more infuriating). Right now, sure, trans people can get married... maybe... sort of... it depends...
1.) What state is someone from?
2.) What state are they trying to get married in?
3.) What was their legal gender status at the time of their marriage?
4.) What is their current legal status?
5.) Is this person a trans man trying to marry a cis woman? Trying to marry a cis man? Trying to marry another trans man? Trying to marry a trans woman? A trans woman trying to marry a cis woman? Trying to marry a cis man? Trying to marry a trans man? Trying to marry another trans woman?
All of these items impact the current level of legitimacy (in the eyes of the law) of a marriage.
As I'm from Illinois, I can only speak to my own situation (born here, male assigned at birth): It's my understanding that I can currently marry a cis woman, a trans man who has not had the gender on his birth certificate gender updated, or a trans woman who HAS had her birth certificate gender updated. If I were to have the gender on my birth certificate updated to read "female" (which is something I'd like to do, but obviously, the status of marriage equality will have an impact here... also, current Illinois law makes changing gender on a birth certificate much trickier than it is for drivers licenses), I could legally marry a cis man, a trans woman who HAS had his birth certificate gender updated, or a trans woman who has NOT had her birth certificate gender updated.
Basically, the general rule in Illinois is "opposite birth certificates = good." I'm getting my drivers license updated this Friday, but that won't impact who I can marry (yes, it will be frustrating to have various legal documents with various genders on it...).
In the end, though, even if you fit the criteria to be legally married, current law remains so murky on the subject that it's hard to know for sure just how recognized it will be. Prime example, Thomas Beatie, the famous pregnant man of tabloid fame, recently had a judge reject his petition for divorce from his wife under the grounds that they weren't "REALLY" married at all (this, in spite of having been legally married for years... sigh).
Basically, let people marry who they want to marry. Do I think there are bigger issues that impact LGBT folks? Yes. Do I think too much of a focus has been put on marriage, as a cause? Yes. Should I have to decide which forms to change, which to keep the same, etc. etc. etc. when it comes to being able to legally recognize my love life? No. That's ridiculous.
But it's how it is.
1.) What state is someone from?
2.) What state are they trying to get married in?
3.) What was their legal gender status at the time of their marriage?
4.) What is their current legal status?
5.) Is this person a trans man trying to marry a cis woman? Trying to marry a cis man? Trying to marry another trans man? Trying to marry a trans woman? A trans woman trying to marry a cis woman? Trying to marry a cis man? Trying to marry a trans man? Trying to marry another trans woman?
All of these items impact the current level of legitimacy (in the eyes of the law) of a marriage.
As I'm from Illinois, I can only speak to my own situation (born here, male assigned at birth): It's my understanding that I can currently marry a cis woman, a trans man who has not had the gender on his birth certificate gender updated, or a trans woman who HAS had her birth certificate gender updated. If I were to have the gender on my birth certificate updated to read "female" (which is something I'd like to do, but obviously, the status of marriage equality will have an impact here... also, current Illinois law makes changing gender on a birth certificate much trickier than it is for drivers licenses), I could legally marry a cis man, a trans woman who HAS had his birth certificate gender updated, or a trans woman who has NOT had her birth certificate gender updated.
Basically, the general rule in Illinois is "opposite birth certificates = good." I'm getting my drivers license updated this Friday, but that won't impact who I can marry (yes, it will be frustrating to have various legal documents with various genders on it...).
In the end, though, even if you fit the criteria to be legally married, current law remains so murky on the subject that it's hard to know for sure just how recognized it will be. Prime example, Thomas Beatie, the famous pregnant man of tabloid fame, recently had a judge reject his petition for divorce from his wife under the grounds that they weren't "REALLY" married at all (this, in spite of having been legally married for years... sigh).
Basically, let people marry who they want to marry. Do I think there are bigger issues that impact LGBT folks? Yes. Do I think too much of a focus has been put on marriage, as a cause? Yes. Should I have to decide which forms to change, which to keep the same, etc. etc. etc. when it comes to being able to legally recognize my love life? No. That's ridiculous.
But it's how it is.
iPhone or Android?
I have 1 of each (personal: iPhone 4S; work: Samsung Galaxy S3).
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