You're Wonderful Project

Hello.
We are not defined by who we are with. We are defined by what we do and how we do it. I know having a boyfriend might seem like an important task to you right now, but what you have to remember always is that you are in your prime. You are not 22! You are JUST 22. The world is your oyster yet.
Dont go out in the world, trying to find Someone. Go out into the world and enjoy your life. Be yourself. And don't give a damn about them men. They are all a transient part of your life. They will come and go. But you will be with you forever.
I know it sounds very tacky, but love yourself. When you do, you glow. Believe in yourself. Believe in what you do.
Find something you love doing, and do it right. Find a passion. A hobby .
Never let your life revolve around another being. Man or woman. Dont go looking for love and it will find you.

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You are beautiful, extraordinary. You are a woman. Be strong, be independent. Be yourself.
No one else is good enough.

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Hey stranger,
Its okay to want to be alone. Its perfectly fine. What you are feeling is normal. A lot of people dont like social interactions. And thats perfectly fine. But you are extremely talented and such talent should be showcased to the world just like your friends tell you.
Social anxiety is common. A lot of people go through it. They are worried about what people might think of them. So they avoid social interactions until absolutely necessary. But you are so very talented and beautiful. And you have people around you who love you for who you are. And they want you to try. They want you to try and break out of whatever it is that is holding you back and be the person who they know you can be.
Give it a chance. Give yourself a chance. Take baby steps. I am not asking you to go out tomorrow and start dancing randomly. Talk to one person outside of your friend circle. Just one. Try it. And whenever you feel pained during such interactions, just close your eyes, take 3 deep breaths and count backwards from 10. It may sound stupid. You may think how is that going to help you, but trust me it will. Just give it a try.
Try. Spread your wings. And trust me. You will overcome this.
I won't force you. Deciding to try is completely up to you. You can go on being perfectly happy and talented just the way you are. And that will be alright. Because there is nothing wrong with what you are feeling and doing. But the world is a better place when you have someone to share it with. The world will be a better place with you in it. Socially, emotionally and physically.
Stay wonderful xx

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Okay. I can understand your frustration. But not talking to people isn't a solution. That isn't going to change anything. At least when you talk to people you give them a new perspective to a certain thing, and so do they. Whether or not they chose to look through it, its their choice anyway. Do not think of them as "average thinkers". Maybe they are having problems in communicating with others as much as you. Talk to others. If you feel that they need to take a step forward, you do the same too. You got to step out of your comfort zone. Moreover, the world's population is in billions. There are going to be many such people, isolating yourself wouldn't help the situation.
Mindsets can't be changed over night. It'll take time. My advice to you, keep on fighting soldier, don't let them get to you.
Stay happy and stay wonderful xx

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Ok so everything seems perfect with you right. You seem to have friends and family who love you, you're going to college abroad an everything seems just perfect right. However you're not happy. That means everything isn't as it seems right. I actually went through a similar phase in my life. Sometimes when you reach the pinnacle of success or actually achieve goals that took a reasonable amount of time and energy from you, you sort of drain out. It's reasonable to assume that you work really hard to achieve everything you say you have. To reach a certain level of 'perfection', you must have had to sacrifice time, energy and resources. So I think it's also reasonable to assume that your exhaustion, both emotional and physical has caught on to you. I also have been accepted to a college abroad and I know how many sleepless nights I had just trying to get things done. Given that everything seems just perfect in your life, why don't you try taking some time out for yourself and getting to know who you are and what makes you happy. I know sometimes it's hard to get out of bed and do things that should just be normal and a part of your life, but sometimes we also need a break from 'normal'. Right now as everything else is in order in your life, you don't need to worry about anything else. I think your mind and body is telling you that it's time I concentrate on YOU. As you're moving into a new phase in life, you need to take account of your feelings and general well being before you prepare yourself to continue dealing with everything that is to come. My advice is to consult your friends and family. Tell them how you're feeling and I'm sure they'll provide you with support and good advice. After discussing things with them, take a few days off to just sleep, laze around and do things that relax you and require zero effort. After you're reasonably well rested, take up a hobby. Start going out with your friends to places, sit alone and listen to music or read a book, watch TV, dance, work out etc Do things that make you want to live, make you want to move and breathe and feel alive. As you reclaim all that lost emotion, ability, reason, energy, laughter etc you'll reclaim yourself and your happiness. All the luck to you and remember you're ALIVE. If that's not a reason to get out of bed, then I don't know what is.

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Stay wonderful x

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Honey, get one thing straight in your head.
If you think that having a boyfriend, or a life partner is all that it takes to make you happy, you are very wrong. We go around finding love and happiness in others and expect them to love us and give us all sorts of smiles. When you can't love yourself enough or find happiness in your own self, how can you expect someone else to do that for you?
The only person who can love you more than anyone else in this world is you, yourself.
if you think you need someone to complete you in all respects, you need to reevaluate.
No one should be more important to you than you yourself. No one should have the capability to love you more than you love yourself. You should be your top priority. You need to be your own healer. The day you understand this, I promise you wouldn't need any guy, girl or anyone else to make you feel worthy and complete.
Love yourself, before loving others.
Build a relationship with yourself before you do that with others. Know your self before you try knowing others.
Self explore. Trust me, you'll find so many things about yourself that you never knew till now.
Stay Wonderful x

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Hello, firstly Thankyou for sharing your problem with us.
As soon as you read this, I want you to do one thing; remove that guy from every social network of yours, be it Facebook, instagram, whatever. Just do it now and then come back and read the rest, go go.
No, don't read further, firstly just remove/block him.
So, I think you've done that now.
Next, I want you to indulge yourself in some activities, be it college or your hobbies or even watching tv. Go on a walk, dance, sing, Life's too short to be sad. Let the wind play with your hair or get a pet. It will be okay.
He was just another chapter of your life, a bad one. He has a girlfriend, he is happy in his life; so what's there to wait for?
You will find someone so much better than him, you're so wonderful.
And, no don't rush into a relationship, just go with the flow and I promise things will be fine.
I know heartbreaks are terrible but you're going through this because there's someone much better waiting for you.
Please smile. And do as I say. Goodluck!
You're Wonderful xx

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Hello.
First of all, friendship is not an absolute term, we make friends we lose friends. Its a fluid affair.
Feeling lonely in completely understandable, but you must first make sure that it is not just a 'feeling'.
Sometimes when you are in a particularly bad place in life, it seems like everything has turned against you. Make sure Its not just a feeling.
If your online acquaintances seem to be antagonistic towards you, Its time to move on.
Do not depend on people who you haven't met. Make friends in the flash, get to know them, if it is an option, talk to you parents or a sibling.
Immerse yourself in things you like to do. Cook food, Burn it, and cook again.
Dont Give up because a bunch of people are not over- fond of you.
Life always has an abundance of people who would put you down. Rise above that. Be a person in yourself.
About the incident(s) that happened, for Which you needed counselling, talk to a professional about it. Maybe that will help you move past it permanently.
The thing is, it is always good to be a part of a sense of community, but when you become so imbibed in that community that their absence makes you feel depressed, Its time to move on.
Keep smiling. A new day always dawns.

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You are Wonderful xx

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Everyone makes mistakes, everyone does something they regret, and that is one of the major stepping stone of their lives.
If you care about this person a lot, you must first look to their happiness. If he is happy, even though you think he is in a one side relationship, intervening in his stead can only cause trouble. It will Give birth to resentment and doubts and that lethal 'what if'.
If you care for him very much, you must try to allow yourself to believe that he can be happy without you. If you live Someone, their happiness is of greater value than their being with you.
And how ever clichéd this sounds, love find a way. Maybe not as you envisioned it, not as the traditional 'boyfriend-girlfriend' but as friends. As confidantes perhaps. Cherish their friendship and do not jeopardize it with manipulation.
If you know for a fact that this person is in an exploitative relationship, talk to him. Say what you feel. But let him make the decisions.
Be strong, and believe. There is always something better just waiting to be explored. :)

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Ok so I get that it's disheartening to see yourself fail at work and relationships. After all it's safe to assume that you work really hard to succeed at both. So now that you've accepted that you can't handle either well, let's see what you can do about it. I mean, you can sit and cry at home and for a while that will be a great escape. But later, things won't get better just by crying. So cry your heart out at what hasn't worked out and start afresh. Now that you've cleansed your system, think about what EXACTLY is wrong. I don't know what job you have and I certainly don't know your problem there but if you're feeling inadequate or unable to perform the job itself then it's time to rethink the choices you've made. You need to decide whether what you love the work you do. If you don't, then discover what you do love and go out and do it. If you do love it, then you can ask for help from superiors or someone experienced in your work to help you do it better. Remember there is no shame in asking for guidance. It will only put you on the path to success. When it comes to relationships, you have to dissect what went wrong in those situations. You have to ask yourself questions about the choices you've made because you are the only person in the world that knows yourself better than anybody else does. This means that the only person that has the solutions to all your problems is YOU. Just remember to spend time with yourself, examining your past decisions and getting to know who you are as a person. Once you have a clear idea of who YOU are, you'll know how to proceed. If you really think you're bad at something, sitting at home and crying about it will never work. You need to go out there and change things. Only YOU can turn your failure into success. You just have to try. Stay wonderful xx

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Hello, you're a wonderful and thankyou for making us feel good about what we do :)
Firstly, ups and downs are a part of life, and sometimes you perform well and sometimes you dont. The world is full of opportunities and if one path fails, it doesnt mean you end your life there. It means, you take the other one. You are not a loser infact you are a winner to accept your mistakes. The world is fill of options, if one didnt work, choose the other one.
If someone loves you so much, that means you are super special and your heart is of gold and pure cuz not everyone finds someone to love them.
If your ex is bothering you, talk to him and tell him there are things that arent meant to be and whatever happens, learn to let go, he needs to learn that and you need to sit and talk to him about it.
Always remember, you are a blessing :) you never give up, may what happen.

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