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Are you straight, gay, bisexual or anything else (or maybe it doesn't matter to you what label you have)? And if gay/ bisexual/ etc... , when did you discover it?

I discovered quite early that I am not straight! I think the first time I really liked someone was when I was in primary school, and it was a girl. I asked myself if it was possible that maybe I was gay.
Then in secondary school I just figured I was bi because I had crushes on both girls and boys and learned that that was called "bisexuality".
When I went to uni, I had been in a long term relationship with a boy, and even though I had the occasional attraction to girls, it wasn't really something I thought about. I've never hid that I am not straight, I knew it immediately when I had that very first crush back in primary school, but I never really set out to 'discover' what I was. I just liked people for who they were and not whether they were boys or girls, and never thought much about it.
But when that relationship ended, I actually ended up liking someone who didn't really identify as either boy or girl. So I knew I wasn't straight, but this also meant I wasn't bi.
So since that moment on, I decided to look into it more. I discovered that there was such a thing as "pansexual" and that's what I've been using to identify myself as (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧ so when I meet cool genderqueer people I don't feel confused anymore, it makes total sense! In a way I always knew that I was attracted people for who they were and not their genitals, but I didn't really put a label on it. Now I have a better way of putting it! It didn't really matter for a long time and it still doesn't matter really, but it's nice to feel like I 'figured it out' eventually.
Also, I think sexuality is fluid so this might change in the future, but so far I think this has been true for most of my life. I just discovered it gradually, bit by bit, along the way!

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First of all I hope this doesn't offend you. I'm doing research for myself about the way people express their feelings/thoughts (most likely the dark ones) but what do you think is the best way to talk about your feelings and would you prefer a teacher, friend, colleague or parents/siblings? thank!

Hi, this doesn't offend me. Out of these options I would prefer a friend, but I'm always a bit wary because I don't want to burden someone I love with thoughts they can't help with, putting them in an uncomfortable position?
I wouldn't pick a teacher because they don't need to know about my personal life. Neither do colleagues really. In my personal situation I feel that my family is too close to me to hear them 'objectively' - it's complicated but I would not really feel comfortable myself trying to talk to them.
This is why a friend is always a better option, they know you better than teachers or colleagues do, but they won't always interfere the way close family does.
However, I would always recommend talking to a professional if it's something your friends can't handle, because a professional can give you adequate help that you might need, and also they can go home at the end of the day.
Another option is to find support from someone who is going through the same thing but isn't a personal friend, does that make sense? It can be very helpful to talk to someone who you don't know that closely.
Good luck, hope that helps!

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What would you most like to do if money were no object?

Become a mermaid and live in a castle under the sea~

If you could choose a different time period and place to be born, when and where would it be?

Under the sea!
I have no idea though. I used to think I'd like the beginning of the punk era, or Victorian times. (for cultural and fashion reasons) But let's be honest, humans always suck no matter what era. So in the end I'd rather pick somewhere in the future, maybe then all that "ok you would look fabulous but you couldn't vote/go to uni/basically you were a babymaking machine" kind of stuff won't be an issue.
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What was your first thought when you woke up this morning?

"I'm going back to sleep, my alarm is set to go off in an hour byee zzzzzzzz"
I hate when I wake up too early. Messes me up!! And I am *so* tired today!!

Why is a healthy lifestyle so trendy now?

Trendy?! Hahaha okay then. Taking care of yourself through a healthy lifestyle just seems smart to me, trendy or not :'D what a question. Anyway because many people are realising they're rather happy than miserable?! Makes sense.

Which website or app do you use first in the morning?

Usually facebook notifications, and instagram, and snapchat, because I am a loser who is addicted to social media ???????

Question 1: What are three things you're excited for?

1 EUROVISION SONG FESTIVALLLLL
2 roller derby roller derby roller derby
3 when I have finally cleaned and organised all my thiiiiings

What is the perfect number of hours to sleep?

Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred miiiinuuuuutes ?

Question 7: Why do you think society makes people who have mental illnesses out to be dangerous and violent?

There's definitely a stigma. Maybe not always violent, but dangerous, I guess. Mental illness paired with an incident = wow look at this crazy person.
Not good. Not good at all.

Where do you meet new people?

Anywhere and everywhere. At work, lolita/j-fashion events and roller derby things now mostly but even if I go out somewhere else then I meet new people all the time. Yayyy~

Question 5: What is your opinion on conversion therapy? Do you think it's inhumane? (Conversion therapy is any "treatment" that aims to change sexual orientation. For example, homosexual to heterosexual) (you can ignore this if it makes you uncomfortable!)

Yes, it is inhumane. If you have ever seen any survivors of such treatment talk about it, you can't support it... It's disgusting.
There's a weird film that's a bit less doom and gloom about it, some sort of anti-gay camp for young people (forgot the name), but the premise is still the same and it's still the saddest thing. Trying to numb and change people so they can't be who they are, fitting them into a mold of who they should be... This is never good.

Question 4: Do you think schools should promote learning about mental illnesses? Why or why not?

Deeefinitely. The more education, the better. It should be proper explanation and all though, and it's tougher for younger people to understand I guess, but I think it should at least be tried?

Question 3: Can intelligence really be measured by standardized tests?

Yes and no. Lots of things are easier to assess when tested, but everyone with some common sense can see that tests are not ideal and a measure over a longer time frame and in less stressful situations would probably be more accurate [and fair, haha].

Question 2: Do you think those who have a legitimate fear of public speaking be given a bit of leniency when asked to do public presentations? Why or why not? (I mean leniency as not forced to do the presentation or they only have to give the presentation to the teacher instead of all the students)

Legitimate = yes. I have met people like this before and it's not just nerves. They do not like that they have this fear either, and to enforce people that puts them in a really extremely uncomfortable position is really messed up, why would you do that? So I think yes, there's ways to get around the problem. Maybe they could record the presentation in their home over a slide show, and then just play that in front of the crowd, or have someone else read what they wrote, I don't know, lots of options.

I'm going to do another psychology themed spam. If you do not want to receive it, let me know. If any of the questions make you uncomfortable, ignore them. Please no one word answers. Question 1: Does money actually buy happiness? Why or why not?

Actually, I think not. In the end, yeah, money provides things like food and shelter, which we need and basic needs need to be met before we can be happy. So, basic money equals basic happiness. But more money does not equal more happiness. And when sad, money does not magically cure the sad away. I have done a lot of emotional shopping, and it's not worth it. It's a temporary solution, a momentary joy, which doesn't last at all... and in the end I feel much much worse because I usually spend money that I shouldn't have... so no, I don't believe money buys happiness.

What would you do if you woke up and all the other people were gone?

Try and find out what happened?
Then make the best of it and party with the narwhals

What makes you feel proud of yourself?

When I achieve something I worked really hard for or didn't think I could do.
Mostly those are academic achievements or also in roller derby, when I surprise myself for doing something I never thought possible. But sometimes I'm proud because I'm still going even though nothing works. When I go through all my things and figure out ways to get rid of old stuff to be able to breathe, or make way for new stuff (literally and metaphorically), when I take steps away from the past and into the future, that also makes me proud.

How did people have fun 200 years ago?

They had entertainment 200 years ago. There were plays and music and dance, literature, all sorts of things?

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